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VIDEO: "What is parental alienation?" Parental alienation is when a parent allows a child to participate or hear them degrade the other parent. This is not uncommon in divorces and the children often adjust. In severe cases, however, it can be devastating to the child. This video provides a helpful overview.
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Author Topic: Now i'm the crazy one? That's rich.  (Read 468 times)
Rocknut
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« on: April 09, 2013, 07:29:53 AM »

The final breakup stage:

the last few weeks have been my ex BPD boyfriend constantly calling me names, only to apologize 2 minutes later. Well, the last few days, its been a constant barrage of name calling, saying every horrible thing imaginable about my looks, my body, etc.

Thats fine... . heres the rich part.

He relapsed on drugs hard several months back. I set up an intervention with his family about 4 weeks ago. After I told his family, he labeled ME the crazy one. Got that? He repeatedly tells me I'M CRAZY. He keeps telling ME to get help. He even told people at his job that I am crazy, harassing him.

rich huh?
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« Reply #1 on: April 09, 2013, 07:38:11 AM »

of course he will call you crazy, he needs to take action and responsibility for his "own" life. He is probably upset cuz maybe he is going thru intervention now, or maybe back on drugs.

For him in the last few days, to still be name calling, etc, is uncalled for you don't need that and time to put the focus on you.
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« Reply #2 on: April 09, 2013, 08:00:10 AM »

ugh.
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« Reply #3 on: April 09, 2013, 08:15:00 AM »

Mine calls me crazy and abusive while he is raging.  When they rage it is normally over exaggerated emotions, mixed in with half truths and the kitchen sink.  Leave the area when he rages.  Thats his problem to deal with, not yours.

I understand that things are rough between us right now, its difficult and I know we both are hurting.  I want to hear what your saying and its hard to with us both being so upset.  I'm going to go _____ (do something) and ill call you back in about an hour for example... .   We can both calm down and figure out whats going on here.  Do it, dont argue with him about it.

If you are sure you are done with the relationship... .   set a boundry.  I will not be in a relationship where I am verbally abused.

The next time he breaks it ... . say I cant be in a relationship where I am talked to like that.  and start the detachment process.

Thats my two cents anyway.
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