recovery meeting

[healingmyheart]

I've started a divorce and recovery class per the recommendations of a friend who is going through a rough divorce.  I never married my ex so I'm not going through a divorce but I am recovering.  Last night I went to the first meeting.  The first thing we did was go around the room and explain our circumstances.  Every single person was ultimately cheated on.  Most marriages were long term... .   one lady was married for 40 years.  It was such an eye opener for me. By the time they got to me I was so overcome with emotion that I just started crying.  How can I feel good about moving forward and out of this dysfunctional relationship when I see that cheating and infidelity is so rampant.  I realize these are the people who's relationships didn't work and there are people out there with happy, healthy relationships.  The class is about seeing the "red flags" and acknowledging them and finding a healthy relationship so I know it will be good for me.  It's just scary going back out into the world feeling so used and violated and knowing that I'm at risk of acquiring the same.  They say you attract people at the level you are at and I know right now I'm a mess.  I'm beginning to wonder if I'm going to be permanently flawed from this. 

[Surnia]

Healingmyheart

 it will get better, believe me. Give yourself time. Its healthy to cry. 

Its a brave step going to this class! And thank you for sharing. I never heart about this kind of classes!