Is she lying

[LosingIt2]

I had a session with my T today. He and I both stated our certainty of my exgf having BPD. First of all, this is huge. That kind of confirmation is a little scary. Suddenly, all of this feels real. Our relationship was partially founded on a BPD disorder, and frankly, that freaks me out. Also, since her having BPD is likely the case, I fear that anything goes as far as her actions are concerned. The first time we broke up, I found out she had an 'emotional affair" with a married man she worked with. You know, one of those fantasy relationships pwBPD start. Then, she left me again. She said they were never physically together. How can I believe her? She lies... .  My first instinct was that she began seeing this person again in order to make her detachment from me easier. My T mentioned her sleeping with him. I thought, no way, how could she do that? Honestly, how could she? I'm sure she is/has. This blows me away. I'm having a hard time processing this. Is this possible even though she denied it?

[Mightyhammers]

Of course its possible why would it not be? Im sorry to say it but she probably has

[LosingIt2]

eh, i actually don't think she is. anyway he's a loser so i don't care. thanks

[Somewhere]

No idea why this got volleyballed out of the RUN-FAST-NOW section.

You know. 

That was why you put this in the Leaving Section.

You know.  Go. 

Need permission?  or Direction?  or What?

No point in you being a Loser, too.

[BorderlineMagnet]

my exBPDgf found a loser to sleep with behind my back, lied about it, and tried to keep me around to sleep with. She was sleeping with him to get him to take care of the kids, and was keeping me around probably because she just really liked sleeping with me (we were fwb's for 6 months before dating). So yeah, they lie. It's kind of their thing. But here's a tip: Pay attention to the things you think are lies, and pay attention to how she defends them. They go out of their way, like a child, to put on a show about their most shameful lies. They give themselves up nearly every time with that behavior. Trust me, I've been through 2 ex's with BPD, and it was the same with both of them, even though they were radically different in many ways.