Haven't seen my Grandson in months

[MEME43]

Hi,

I was wondering if there is anyone who can give me any advice about how I can see my gs2. My BPD daughter in law will not allow us to see him since December 2012... .  she will not give our son a reason just says we aren't allowed to see him anymore.

my son left her last week but went back that night because he couldn't bare to leave our gs and did not want to confuse him.

I am wondering if there is someone here who may have experienced anything like this and offer any suggestions on how to deal... .  I miss my sweet gs so much.

thanks for any advice

[nomom4me]

I feel for you, I was very close with my nephew when he was a baby and my sister has been triangulating with my mom and refusing to make any plans with me (and her son) that do not also involve my mother.  Not the same situation, but I miss my nephew and feel like my hands are tied.  My sister lives a few miles away and basically drives past my house on her way to work.  She has a free babysitter here, she knows her son liked spending time with me.

I think the best thing you can do is support your son and keep communication open with him.  If he does decide to leave her, support that - it's a hard decision for anyone to make and maybe he needs validation that he is not the crazy one.

[Clearmind]

Sorry to hear that MEME43 - how distressing.

Its unfortunate that it places you in a difficult position. What does your son think about all this?

[MEME43]

Thanks, for you thoughts on this... . my son says he wants us to be in gs2 life however he doesn't think he can do anything about it at this time.  it really is sad... . for everyone involved the children most of all... .

nomom4me I understand your pain my daughter and two gd's are suffering in the same way they have not seen my gs for a year now it is so heartbreaking.

I have never experienced anything like this in my life, nor has my son... . I think he stays for his son more than anything. He can't imagine not being there he is the one who baths him every night, makes supper, and gives him his bath.

I will continue to keep as much contact as possible with my son... . I am determined that he knows we are here if and when he ever needs our help.