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« on: May 07, 2013, 10:14:07 AM »
I've been NC with exBPD for 9 days now. I know that there is no hope for a healthy relationship with her and have accepted it. However, what is so annoying is how I still crave re-engagement. I just want to be free of this so bad yet I still feel like an addict. My problem is that I haven't been in a lot of relationships and this one definitely was the deepest emotionally I've ever been. Sometimes I think I need a long vacation to reinvigorate myself and truly get over her.
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« Reply #1 on: May 07, 2013, 11:53:47 AM »
Time & Tears - no magic pill to get this out of our system.

You are going through a major emotional change - as such, take really good care of yourself.  During this time, do the little things like: eat healthy, exercise, sleep, see trusted friends, stay away from drugs/alcohol - think of it like recovering from a major surgery.

It will get better -I promise.

Do you have a therapist you are working with to process your emotions?

Peace,

SB
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« Reply #2 on: May 07, 2013, 12:54:50 PM »
Then take a vacation if you can! I did after I stopped seeing my exBPD and it helped me re-charge!
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« Reply #3 on: May 07, 2013, 02:38:08 PM »
Not seeing a therapist right now. I am doing improv comedy that I feel is helping. I think a vacation would really help... . especially if it was backpacking where you meet a lot of new people usually. The continuation of these improv classes will help too. Surprisingly, there are a few others in the class that just got out of a breakup. I would recommend it for anyone.
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« Reply #4 on: May 07, 2013, 02:55:02 PM »
I would see a therapist if I was you... .  it will help.
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