she managed to contact me today

After one week of her not been able to contact me she phoned my work. I have closed FB, changed phonenumbers and I closed my email yesterday after a serious of emails which were saying either in the "i miss you tone" or "there is something wrong with you" tone.

She called and asked me to call her again because it was very urgent in a quiet voice... . So I called thinking it could be something serious... . and then she started crying, telling me she didn´t want us to be so angry and to be friends, she was in love with me, she was having panic attacs, thought I started seeing my former wife agai... . etc. etc.

But I´m quite sure she will manage to get my phone number in the end. It´s a pity Iphone doesn´t have block calls setting

I just said humm... . and yes and then said I had to go and hung up.

I just can´t do any communication anymore. I went to see my therapist today and he said she would not give up. And again he assured me that all the symptoms he was seeing were typical BPD behaviour. And probably a lot she told me could be lies.

He also explained that BPD´s are one of the most difficult cases of clients do deal with and in his mind to break up such a RS is very difficult.

Also I know her former boyfriend wen´t to see my T. and he told me that without really saying it direct that he also explained BPD behaviour towards him, and he also thought she was BPD as well as me, which was quite disturbing to hear.

But I´m quite sure that next weekend she will try to contact me. It is "free weekend without kids" and i´m thinking about staying somewhere else.

But I´ve realized that responding to her or commenting on any issue is not possible and my advice from my T. is to put up a "poker face" and just "humm" things away if she manages to contact my and I get into that situation.



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