interventions and boundary setting with BPD's

[molldoll]

Hi I'm new to this, but long story short my family did an intervention with my BPD dad two months ago. Our therapist had us tell him how much we loved him but until he could seek help he wouldn't be an active member of our family. The hard part is that he doesn't seem to care that we intervened and asked him to get help. Anyone else go through this ? Does it take time for him to miss us? It's so hurtful because it feels like he should want to do and seek any kind of help to get us back but so far it just looks like he is enjoying his solo destructive lifestyle.

[heartandwhole]

 

Hi molldoll,

A very warm welcome to you.  I'm glad you found this site.  You will find a lot of support and encouragement here.  There are lots of people who are in similar situations and there are tools to make things better.

I'm sorry that your dad doesn't seem to want to work on his issues or be part of the family right now.  I understand your hurt    No one can help your dad, without his active participation, but you can definitely feel better yourself and even improve your relationship with him.  There is hope!

What behaviors are causing you the most problems right now?  :)oes your dad live near you/with you?  Are your parents still married?

Here is a link which may be helpful for you right now: Video-Tools to Reduce Conflict with a person suffering from BPD

You mentioned boundaries, which are very important in these kinds of relationships: BOUNDARIES: Upholding our values and independence

Keep writing, it helps to share your story.  We are here to support you - we care.

heartandwhole