Thank you

[Angelnme]

I am new to this site (1 day) and I am hooked. I feel like I have read all I need to learn about BPD as my bf of 9years (stbx) is uBPD. But now I'm working on the tools and techniques to communicate more effectively with him, as I've only known about the disorder for about 3 weeks. So you can imagine that for 9 years, I've been reacting. And I've moved from codependent to totally dependent - something I'm not proud of but I take full responsibility for.

My bf now rages at me daily. DAILY. (It wasnt always that way.) He has called me every name in the book and then some. If words were punches, I'd be dead a thousand times over. He lies, he cheats, he threatens, he manipulates, he criticizes EVERYONE, he has lost his family to his behaviours (all 3 children want nothing to do with him), he's controlling, he's mastered the art of blame-shifting... . But he can also be amazing and he is high functioning and very successful, and can be fun and romantic... . which is why I have stayed.

But now it's time to work on me!

Thanks to this forum, I am learning what I can do differently while I'm still in this r/s. So many of you post rants... . keep ranting! Because if you're like me, you sure can't do it at home! Plus I'm sure I'm not alone in saying that I'm learning from it, and that I support you.

I'm so thankful for this forum and the members. It's exactly what I need on my journey toward healing and reclaiming my emotional health and independence. Hugs to you all

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