If you can, let it go... . your mental health is worth so much more than a few measly thousand dollars. I couldn't let go of a similar situation with my wife and she did go ballistic. And I wish more than anything, I would have let it go. In the end, I would have been so much better off emotionally. Live and learn.
Hi Nolisan
I have tried more than once to 'reason' with exH about financial issues and it has backfired on me by bringing me down every time. I am currently feeling much healthier than I have for some time and am debating with myself about whether to tackle a financial issue. But, I am scared that my hard-won current state might be damaged again.
I hate feeling that he is still in some way controlling me by making decisions about finance that affect me. However, I remember how low I felt after previous encounters and I don't want to go there just now.
Do you want the money back (a) because you really need it or (b) as a matter of principle (or a combination of both)?