God, give me strenght...

[Foreverhopefull]

Since the change in dBPDh, his mood has been from not good to horrible, but now it's more constantly horrible.

He has had some back pains for weeks, but they are increasing to the point of not getting any relief from any pain medication, rubs, heat/cold... . nothing is working.

He is not easy to live with from the get go and now he's in this kind of pain... . like I said in the title "God give me strenght".

Do any of you find them even to be "more" (more needy, more emotionally unstable, more everything) when they are not feeling good physically?

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[Scout99]

Yes, Yes, and Yes!

My SO undiagnosed but most likely BPD is super-sensitive to physical ailments... .

He is the only person I know who can catch a cold several times a week... . And he is extremely sensitive to anything that not perfect with his body... .

The complaints about headaches, toothaches, stomach-problems, tense or sore muscles, old injury ailments and exaggerated nervousness about eventual implications that the different pains might indicate... .

He has had a few panic attacks, (before he met me), and is frantic about experiencing that again... . So he often connects different pains and stuff with the fear of that, and thus creating a lot of security behaviors and avoidance behaviors to prevent panic from occuring... .

And the mood is very much connected to it... . A simple headache during the night or waking up makes him expect the day to be horrible with a Capitol H or at least very unstable... . It can make the difference in weather or not we can meet for the weekend or if he will cancel at the last minute. And these ailments cause him to make numerous visits to the doctor... . (Making me really angry that no one over the years have picked up on his psychiatric problems, not even when he has been in with clear panic attacks!) 

I din't know what to do about it... . yet, at least... . But I also do like you... . I pray, and ask God to give me strength... . And at least you are not alone... . And apparently neither am I... .

[Chosen]

Definitely. 

Just think, when we're not feeling well, even us as nons will be a bit down and frustrated, right?  So for them it's 100x more of every emotion (ok, except happiness perhaps  )... .

I think when they're in physical pain/ discomfort they need much more validation and care from us.  But of course it's hard if they start blaming their state on us... . Like both of you, I pray too.  Sometimes when I just don't feel I can get through the day, I just pray that God will take me through today... . one day at a time.