possibe triangulating?

[Depression = 72% of members]

So it has been no contact since june 13th and yesterday I seen her friend (well our mutual friend)

on face book and I said hi. this was the conversation

me-- hi

her--hi

me . so I have a trip planned(which me and my wife were suppose to go on for my bday) this month 25-30 for my bday, can you go?

her-- I wish I could I am beyond broke

me--- yea I asked everyone , I am prob going by myself that sucks.

her---no one can go!

me---no girl

her---none of your friends

me ---nope

her--- that sucks I would think people would jump to the opportunity... .

me---yea they would have to pay airfare only

her---yea that's the bad thing about my job no time to take off.

me-- I hear ya

her ---are you doing better

me--- it is what it is, my life has been turned upside down

her-- it will fall back to place in time

me-- I hope she is happy for what she did

her---she is not, but it was better then making both of your lives difficult.

me ---?

her---- well you said she was a liar. would you want to continue with something like that... .

me-----she is and no I don't want to be with someone like that , she is sick , I feel sorry for her.

her---she's prohibited me from telling (the guy I busted her with) she is staying with me, she said she just wants to be left alone.

me--- she can hurt people and have no conscious

its all about her, she has no accountability for anything

her - well now your done with that, till you

find what your looking for.

me---but that is her life and she has to live with it, im glad im out, she has drained me.

ok so there was more but insignificant

my ex stays with her on the days she works and then goes back to her home town. I don't know if she was there during our facebook session. why the heck did she feel the need to tell me that she (myex) prohibits the (guy) to know she is at her friends! I did not entertain it but ?

[Tired68]

So it has been no contact since june 13th and yesterday I seen her friend (well our mutual friend)

on face book and I said hi. this was the conversation

me-- hi

her--hi

me . so I have a trip planned(which me and my wife were suppose to go on for my bday) this month 25-30 for my bday, can you go?

her-- I wish I could I am beyond broke

me--- yea I asked everyone , I am prob going by myself that sucks.

her---no one can go!

me---no girl

her---none of your friends

me ---nope

her--- that sucks I would think people would jump to the opportunity... .

me---yea they would have to pay airfare only

her---yea that's the bad thing about my job no time to take off.

me-- I hear ya

her ---are you doing better

me--- it is what it is, my life has been turned upside down

her-- it will fall back to place in time

me-- I hope she is happy for what she did

her---she is not, but it was better then making both of your lives difficult.

me ---?

her---- well you said she was a liar. would you want to continue with something like that... .

me-----she is and no I don't want to be with someone like that , she is sick , I feel sorry for her.

her---she's prohibited me from telling (the guy I busted her with) she is staying with me, she said she just wants to be left alone.

me--- she can hurt people and have no conscious

its all about her, she has no accountability for anything

her - well now your done with that, till you

find what your looking for.

me---but that is her life and she has to live with it, im glad im out, she has drained me.

ok so there was more but insignificant

my ex stays with her on the days she works and then goes back to her home town. I don't know if she was there during our facebook session. why the heck did she feel the need to tell me that she (myex) prohibits the (guy) to know she is at her friends! I did not entertain it but ?

[Clearmind]

Which part of the exchange is related to triangulation (read definition) tired?

[Tired68]

Her friend telling me about my ex telling our mutual friend that she is prohibited to tell " the guy " where she is staying . Our mutual friend is also friends with this man my ex had an affair on me with 4 years ago . So I busted her recently with him again at her sisters wedding. So she left our home and I haven't talked to her since. My question is why did her friend feel the need to tell me this. ? I didn't ask. Also her sister is denying that she is in a r/s with him , so why the hell did she lie to me and take him to her sisters wedding and call me from there and tell me she loves me and misses me. It's all bs! I just want to be over this pain! And yes the NC is killing me . I don't want to feel like this!

[Clearmind]

All it is emotional immaturity Tired not triangulation (read definition). Not every triade is triangulation (read definition).

How can you work with hearing this stuff and why are you engaging?

The pain will be over when you change your perception of the situation and come to a level of acceptance that this person was brought to you to learn more about you. Not all break-ups are this hard right? Why this one - why a toxic one?