NC for 10 days

[me757]

Just venting right now. I told my exuBPDgf that I wanted NC in an email 10 days ago. Since then she has called me twice and texted me about where a certain store is - basically fishing for a response from me. The second call was tonight while I was out with friends. I didn't responded and haven't responded to anything in these 10 days. But it pisses me off so much cause she is married and still does this. I think it's so messed up and how can her marriage last if she's still trying to hold on to me even after I told her to go away. I'm writing this now to prevent me from texting something very mean back. I know I'll regret it eventually but sometimes I just want to tell her to get lost and enjoy her unhealthy marriage. I still have a lot of anger towards her. I'm not really sad anymore at least. Maybe she is craving drama and without me in her life with the other guy things are getting stale. Who knows but she was definitely wrong when she said marriage would calm her down.

[Lucky Jim]

Hey me757, The question in my mind is, why are you doing this dance with your Ex, particularly now that she is married?  It seems like you're still hoping for something positive from her, which may be unrealistic.  Who cares whether she's happy in her marriage?  Time to move on, my friend, in my view.  Good luck!  Lucky Jim

[me757]

Not really doing the dance. I definitely have given up on anything positive coming from her. If anything, I see her as a seriously confused and ill person. I've still kept NC for the last 11 days though - the most ever at this point. I was just venting/had a little too much to drink last night. I feel a lot better this morning and will continue no contact. I'm still addicted to her attention in a lot of ways, and it can be validating to my ego when she calls, but I'm realizing how much better NC is with feeling healthier.

[Lucky Jim]

OK!  Stay the course.  You don't need that kind of attention.  She has a disorder that you are better off staying well away from, in my view.  Lucky Jim

[me757]

I guess what really annoys me is that I was so blunt about there being NC. I told her that there is no point in us talking because she is married and I need to move on. She just can't take the hint. This is just another example of her lack of empathy.

[recoil]

This is just another example of her lack of empathy.

This is another example of her disorder.  And evidence that nobody will ever satisfy her, not her husband (she is trying to communicate with you behind his back) and not you (she married him).

It's a no win situation and you're better off seeking a better love elsewhere.