What does bug me is the self justification and entitled attitude she has. No gratitude what so ever. I don't know why I should hope for anything different. The attitude is exactly like that of a spoiled child. I know this and have known thats how she acts for a while but its still just dumbfounding. Its hard to keep remembering that I did the best I could by her and her kids kept my responsibilities and then some when I keep getting treated like a door mat.
I'm pretty sure its common enough BPD behavior that some of you have felt the same way. Can anyone else share their experience and or how they handled a situation similar?
I know it is hard to feel like we don't matter or that what we did was not enough.
Gratitude is tough when someone doesn't have a stable sense of self. She is simply surviving in the best way she knows.
I can remember feeling exhausted and violated by how much stuff my ex thought she was entitled to during our divorce... . it was never enough and somehow the stuff now seemed more important than me - that feeling sucked.
Keep focused on you and your recovery - you can only take care of you now.