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« on: August 09, 2013, 08:28:16 PM »

I was in the undecided board several months ago ready to let go. I guess the seriousness of it drilled through his selfish brain because February 13 he gave me a ring.

He is amazed at how I managed to "be in his head" and tell him not only why he did things, but what he was actually feeling when he was doing them. His biggest "reason" for leaving (repeatedly) was because I "wouldn't give him a baby." Well in January we did a semen analysis and it was him. I have watched his karma come full circle and knock him on his behind. And while he was down there told him he has no one to blame but himself for taking his life for granted and acting like he didn't care about consequences and nothing mattered.

My insecurity is this... . He acknowledges where he went wrong, stopped expecting me to bail him out, made his own arrangements. He appreciates me more (although I would still love to staple his lips closed occasionally), he has been out of work for six months (not fired though) and even voiced guilt over the burden put on me and now he is about to start a new job he wants to pull his weight and for us to get ahead and accomplish. He also suddenly (after a visit to family without me) wants to hurry and get married.

He's thinking too logically! I have read that as people get older their symptoms can lesson. And now that he knows what's wrong with him and why it seems he controls his impulses more.

Is it a dream? A trap?
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