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« Reply #30 on: November 27, 2013, 08:20:36 AM »

I'm so sorry for all the pain your family is going through, lbjntlx 

I hope that your daughter is able to deal with it all in a healthy way, and no doubt your strength and faith will help both of you to do that.

Please know that we are all sad for you, rooting for you, and keeping you both in our prayers... .

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« Reply #31 on: November 27, 2013, 08:39:55 AM »

Dear lbj

How I wish I could find the words to comfort you like you have found for me. My heart hurts for your family and I am sad to hear your news. I will keep you and your dd in my prayers. I can't imagine how this has impacted you both. I hope your dd is able to cope at the learning center. I hope you have a good thanksgiving and are surrounded by family and friends. Hugs to you.
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« Reply #32 on: November 27, 2013, 09:18:02 AM »

Dear lbj,  So sorry for your loss , this all seems too much for anyone to handle my prayers and condolences are with you and your family take it one day at a time and know all of us here are sending you many hugs and prayers mggt
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« Reply #33 on: November 27, 2013, 09:54:55 AM »

Iam so sorry to hear this sad news Lbj.

I hope in time that the anger your dd has in her right now, will in time be filled with happy memories of your dh who you all loved so much. It is all very early days.

Sending you all strength, and peace and love,

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« Reply #34 on: November 27, 2013, 10:23:09 AM »

LBJ,

I'm so sorry!  Please know my thoughts are with you and your dd.
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« Reply #35 on: November 27, 2013, 03:25:58 PM »

I am so sorry to hear this sad news, lbj.  Prayers for peace and acceptance for you, your dd and the entire family.  Please take care of yourself during this very difficult time.      Swampped
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« Reply #36 on: November 27, 2013, 04:10:01 PM »

I am deeply saddened to read that this has happened ibj! I wish you and dd all the strength in the world!

So so sorry for your loss!   
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« Reply #37 on: November 27, 2013, 06:59:34 PM »

Dear lbj, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

I am so sorry for your loss. 

It is amazing to hear that your dd is coping well. I am sure there are some rough days ahead, and I know you are the best mom she can wish for. Take good care of yourself - for you and for her, ok?

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« Reply #38 on: November 27, 2013, 07:09:40 PM »

I am so sorry for your loss. Your daughter will come through this. Prayers your way.
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« Reply #39 on: November 27, 2013, 07:18:27 PM »

lbj

How are you doing with this loss? Your love and compassion for D17 is great, and there are many there to support her. So glad the school is able to make these accomadations. You are all in my daily prayers always. Be kind to yourself.

Peace and joy for you all in this time of great loss.

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« Reply #40 on: November 27, 2013, 07:36:57 PM »

lbj,

I am so deeply sorry for the loss of your husband.     Your family is in my prayers. 

May God bless you and your dd during this difficult time.   


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« Reply #41 on: November 28, 2013, 06:13:01 AM »

 dearest lbjnltx-

I am so very sorry for your loss. I am so very sorry for your DD's loss. My daughter was the same age, 17, when my first husband died.

You have unique strengths. However, don't try to do everything yourself and don't make the mistake I made of thinking that I was strong enough to breeze through my grief. Loss of a spouse is an exceptionally difficult situation to work through. PLEASE, when you find yourself in a low place (you will) seek help. I know of a wonderful website for young widows with a bulletin board like this one. I got through some very dark days by finding connection with other widows. I am sending you a PM for the site.

Even though, as a spouse, when there is a diagnoses of cancer we might forward our thoughts to "what if" there is truly no way to prepare for the way we feel when we experience the loss of our beloved... .I recall feeling very lost and at times so completely overwhelmed.

My nondd didn't have the added complication of mental health issues to confound her  grief and still, her life was so broken when her Dad died. My grief, her grief... .how we got through it still seems mysterious and so very hard.

Many times I felt myself unable to think, confused, overwhelmed. The gambit of emotion is hard to describe. I found it surprising and unexpected.

Please remember that I'm a message away.

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« Reply #42 on: November 29, 2013, 05:56:50 PM »

lbj,

You and your D and family are in my thoughts and prayers. I'm so sorry for your loss. I know you will find the strength and hope you've given so many of us here coming back to you tenfold as you and your D go forward. 


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« Reply #43 on: November 30, 2013, 12:06:03 AM »

I am so sorry for your loss.  Please know that my prayers support you and your DD at this very difficult and stressful time. 
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« Reply #44 on: November 30, 2013, 02:34:28 AM »

So sorry for your loss. Take care, friend.
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