The bad news : Ex assaulted me. They didn't arrest him. They were actually trying to arrest ME! I am totally , completely mind blown. I had three cops scolding me, asking ME why he does the things he does!
Apparently they see you as a catalyst of his behaviors, that he reacts to them, as though you're doing little things to trigger him to do whatever? Are you keeping your distance from him except for required exchanges?
Are these police he is familiar with? If so then he's had years to convince them (as expert blamers can do) that despite his behaviors, you're the underlying problem.
Congrats on the job! Don't let your ex sabotage it, I'm sure he will try. Your financial future - and independence - is starting to look up.
