Ready to call it quits

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

My husband is in the hospital again and this time I am being blamed as the cause.  For once I finally speak up and talk about how I need to start filling my own emotional bank account because he really is able or willing to take part.  I also wanted him to use his words when he wanted to talk to me and not sit and stare at me waiting for me to guess what he needs.  After our conversation, he decided to deliberately keep me out of the loop when he hit crisis and tried to hang himself from our bed post.  After 3 years of this continuous emotional roller coaster I am ready to call it quits.  We have been to couples therapy and it's always the same thing... . always the same issues.  I work on mine and try to help our relationship, and he gives me nothing in return.  At what point does it become enough and when do you finally let go?  I love my husband, but right now we are really only room mates and I feel anger and frustration with him every day.  Am I giving up too soon? 

[snoflke06]

My husband is in the hospital again and this time I am being blamed as the cause.  For once I finally speak up and talk about how I need to start filling my own emotional bank account because he really is able or willing to take part.  I also wanted him to use his words when he wanted to talk to me and not sit and stare at me waiting for me to guess what he needs.  After our conversation, he decided to deliberately keep me out of the loop when he hit crisis and tried to hang himself from our bed post.  After 3 years of this continuous emotional roller coaster I am ready to call it quits.  We have been to couples therapy and it's always the same thing... . always the same issues.  I work on mine and try to help our relationship, and he gives me nothing in return.  At what point does it become enough and when do you finally let go?  I love my husband, but right now we are really only room mates and I feel anger and frustration with him every day.  Am I giving up too soon? 

[Booklvr9]

My partner has in the past threatened to kill herself... . it was only when i called her bluff a few years ago that she finally stopped doing that... .   but the other passive-aggressive behavior remains. 

Only you can determine if you're giving up too soon, but remember that it takes two committed people to make a r/s work.   

Rooting for you!