Insanity

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

They say the definition of insanity is trying the same thing over and over again expecting different results. I feel for me this time I do have to try something different.  My approach is simply this - it matters not if she comes back or leaves for good - I am done.  I tried this approach in January and she fell apart so badly after 5 attempts to contact me failed to illicit a response.  I felt so horrible when she emailed and said ":)on't you love me anymore... . " and then begged me to see her - and I did.  She was such a mess like a little girl... . I could not break her and took her in my arms.  I CANNOT do that again either!  So if she contacts - or when she contacts - its a simple response for me.  I cannot continue this affair - it is unhealthy for me and my family - and we all come first.  Please do not contact me and respect this.

Won't know if it will help me feel better in time... . and still don't know if she is done this time.  But I am.

[bauers220]

They say the definition of insanity is trying the same thing over and over again expecting different results. I feel for me this time I do have to try something different.  My approach is simply this - it matters not if she comes back or leaves for good - I am done.  I tried this approach in January and she fell apart so badly after 5 attempts to contact me failed to illicit a response.  I felt so horrible when she emailed and said ":)on't you love me anymore... . " and then begged me to see her - and I did.  She was such a mess like a little girl... . I could not break her and took her in my arms.  I CANNOT do that again either!  So if she contacts - or when she contacts - its a simple response for me.  I cannot continue this affair - it is unhealthy for me and my family - and we all come first.  Please do not contact me and respect this.

Won't know if it will help me feel better in time... . and still don't know if she is done this time.  But I am.

[simplyasiam]

i understand just what your saying, our story is a little diffrent as i want my back and want to rebuild our family. i also stoped contact one time a few months ago i changed my cell and home phone number blocked her email and f/b and ex returned only to leave agian. she made contact every week for months now. i like you im now done playing that game.

i last talked to her 10 days ago, i didnt reply to her contact this past wed. its her turn to set and wonder.

this time im not blocking her in anyway she know all the numbers unblocked on facebook SHE KNOW THIS TIME IM READING HER MESSAGES AND NOT ANSWERING.

i dont know if this will change her veiw or change anything at all but i know in 6 years ive never stood up to her and or failed to reply. this time i will not contact her or reply to her before she makes some change.