Emotional Support

[therunningbaker]

I guess I'm posting again because I need a little emotional support. My mom has been on the war path lately. I work 45 minutes from my house (i leave at 5:30 am every morning for work), and my mom lives an hour in the opposite direction. Right now, my husband is deployed and my best friend is moving on Sunday. I was supposed to eat dinner at my mom's house tonight, but I don't feel like driving that much after work. She never offers to come to my house, or is understanding about the driving. I want to see my friend before she moves, and I need to cancel dinner with my mom. I cancelled dinner the other night because my car was broken, but of course it just created a lot of drama. She didn't understand why I had to get my car fixed and not eat dinner with her. I especially don't want to make all the effort to go see her after a long day of work when she's in a bad mood and I would have to go alone (my husband is very uncomfortable with me spending any time alone with her). I know that I need to spend time with my friend tonight, but I'm so terrified to cancel on my mom. I know that isn't normal, mom's should be understanding, but a little emotional support would help. Thank you guys!

[nomom4me]

I understand!  My mom lives about an hour away from me and is capable of driving or taking transit to the city where I live.  I'm in a major metropolitan area where owning a car is very expensive (parking is a big issue where I live, most people pay $200+ a month for it and many people just use transit).  My mom cannot understand why I don't want to pay the premium of owning a car, because that would put me at her disposal.  The only times I have needed a car is when I do something with her and regret it because I don't have an easy out.

It's great that your husband is supportive, it's good to have a witness.