I am 100% sure I am leaving my 3-1/2 year r/s with A (not my) WAIF 99% of the time

Never imagined it would be this hard. I left the relationship and she texted every two days for a couple of weeks. I responded with short answers. My fleas were out in full force but I resisted. Finally she texted me with an aggressive manner. I responded that I would not speak to her anymore. I had previously scheduled a therapist on that same day.
After a complete session he clearly stated that she was BPD and gave me info that confirmed with little doubt at all.
I texted her and told her and offered to pay for her initial therapy. The next day I received a text asking me to stop harassing her and that she was contacting an attorney. That was followed up 4 hours later with a call from the police department. She was there and asked the police to call and tell me not to contact her friends or her.
This hopefully painted me permanently black. After 2 months I still have subconscious dreams about her and I understand that I will not heal until these stop but I am looking forward to getting my life back.
NOTE: I was so messed up earlier in the year I missed 4-1/2 months of work (depressed but didn't have a clue why at the time)