last chance

[Bioman]

it's a Friend of mine that i have not seen for year but he has not do anything with his life just wasted it with fantasy dreams and i feel sorry for him i have a great partner of my own she is wonderful i tell hr i have known him from schools and he has never changed thinks the hole world is at him and the way he treats women is very bad

he lives with his mum at home no partner single but portrays all these women and what he done is very sad

i feel i want to cut him off or just let him trug alone but he is on FB and you can see people laughing at him he just brushes it off he is 50 now he has a child he doesn't see in Germany it the constant lies and bull he comes out with

myself i feel very laid back but i see what this person is doing to himself should i get he to sit down and chat with him or just leave it go not getting any younger myself don't need his hassle just need him to think what a fool he is making of himself

Bioman   

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[Bioman]

it's a Friend of mine that i have not seen for years but he has not do anything with his life just wasted it with fantasy dreams and i feel sorry for him i have a great partner of my own she is wonderful i tell hr i have known him from schools and he has never changed thinks the hole world is at him and the way he treats women is very bad

he lives with his mum at home no partner single but portrays all these women and what he done is very sad

i feel i want to cut him off or just let him trug alone but he is on FB and you can see people laughing at him he just brushes it off he is 50 now he has a child he doesn't see in Germany it the constant lies and bull he comes out with

myself i feel very laid back but i see what this person is doing to himself should i get he to sit down and chat with him or just leave it go not getting any younger myself don't need his hassle just need him to think what a fool he is making of himself

Bioman   

[Vindi]

i feel i want to cut him off or just let him trug alone but he is on FB and you can see people laughing at him he just brushes it off he is 50 now he has a child he doesn't see in Germany it the constant lies and bull he comes out with

Bioman   

you said you haven't seen him for years, then it should be easy to keep him out of your life, that seems like that is what you want to do?

you can easily just *hide* his postings on your facebook, or sit down with him and talk things over... .are you more upset that he lives with his mom, or that he treats women bad, or doesn't see his child?

[Bioman]

i feel i want to cut him off or just let him trug alone but he is on FB and you can see people laughing at him he just brushes it off he is 50 now he has a child he doesn't see in Germany it the constant lies and bull he comes out with

Bioman   

you said you haven't seen him for years, then it should be easy to keep him out of your life, that seems like that is what you want to do?

you can easily just *hide* his postings on your facebook, or sit down with him and talk things over... .are you more upset that he lives with his mom, or that he treats women bad, or doesn't see his child?

what happened he ask if i could add him

not a problem but his post started the same way he was years ago i thought what is he like

yes i can delete him off maybe will do

even yesterday telling people he was going on holiday for a while and has only come back 2 days before then i see his post's people asking him how lucky you are wish i had your job etc but has gone nowhere as he posted today on his mobile and it came up with his local home town then post again his battery in his bike and car is flat his NPD trait seems to like attention yes i have spoke to him some time back re his posts but with no reply if you are going to keep posting what you do he wonders why he gets bad reply's i have even had PM's from abroad that know us both they ask me is he ok and they just take the mick out of him / re me being upset i am more upset for him and this false life he portrays to make him feel good about himself i know he has a second FB name and he likes his own post's and reply's to them now this is crazy something is deferentially wrong going on

hope my spelling is better tonight was on a lot of morphine due to back injury

thank you for your reply

Bioman

[waverider]

Sitting him down and trying to" talk sense" into him will have no effect. He has a life time entrenched in his own personality, you wont able to change that. If he is to change, and he has never known any different, then he will need his own personal crisis to make him try.

You just have to accept him the way he is, and keep him at acquaintance arms length if it bothers you that much. Often this behavior perpetuates itself. They make up BS, people get jack of it and abandon them. Rather than realize the issue they just up the BS to sound even more impressive. The problem just gets bigger.

They dont have the ability to accept their own issues (delusional) so they can't learn to address the real issue. It is frustrating to know people like this as you constantly think "if only they could just stop the BS, they could be great", but they can't. It is a personality disorder whether it be BPD or any other. Self sabotaging dysfunctionality, that is ultimately the consequence of PDs

[Bioman]

Sitting him down and trying to" talk sense" into him will have no effect. He has a life time entrenched in his own personality, you wont able to change that. If he is to change, and he has never known any different, then he will need his own personal crisis to make him try.

You just have to accept him the way he is, and keep him at acquaintance arms length if it bothers you that much. Often this behavior perpetuates itself. They make up BS, people get jack of it and abandon them. Rather than realize the issue they just up the BS to sound even more impressive. The problem just gets bigger.

They dont have the ability to accept their own issues (delusional) so they can't learn to address the real issue. It is frustrating to know people like this as you constantly think "if only they could just stop the BS, they could be great", but they can't. It is a personality disorder whether it be BPD or any other. Self sabotaging dysfunctionality, that is ultimately the consequence of PDs

Thank you for your reply

That was spot on

this is the right conclusion yes will keep him at arms length 

Thank you again waverider

Bioman