Losing things?

[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

I have a small question for everyone here, I have encountered a weird thing with my pwBPD and I was curious is this is a common trait.  They lose things all the time.  Constantly.  I have seen my wife lose a credit card in her wallet between the car and the store.  Car keys daily, electronics, devices, remotes. I was just wondering if this is specific to my situation or more of a common thing?

Thanks

[Knowingishalf]

I have a small question for everyone here, I have encountered a weird thing with my pwBPD and I was curious is this is a common trait.  They lose things all the time.  Constantly.  I have seen my wife lose a credit card in her wallet between the car and the store.  Car keys daily, electronics, devices, remotes. I was just wondering if this is specific to my situation or more of a common thing?

Thanks

[nevaeh]

I tend to lose things too... .and I'm not BPD (H is).  I attribute my ability to lose things to being a busy, working mom with three active kids.

However, H also has a tendency to lose things... .and when he does he blames it on others, never taking responsibility for the fact that he might have actually lost the item himself. Usually the comments go negative towards the kids "always" getting into his stuff and then "never" putting anything away and how annoying they are (to him).  If your wife is losing things and then blaming everyone else for the lost item, then maybe you are on to something... .

[Knowingishalf]

All of those reactions are dead on, it is always everyone's fault that things are lost.  The house is too small, the 2 year old left their toys out, the kitchen is too messy and I didn't clean it.  They all come with that, but it is weird she lost her keys and came and woke me up this morning knowing I never touched them to accuse me of taking them.

[froggy]

Apparently I move things just to annoy him.

I don't drive and I always move his keys. .alwaus losing his cell... anything he puta down

Just 10 min ago he came up and asked where I put his back brace... he has absolutely no patience to look for anything. .I found it in all his dirty work clothes... .apparently I put it there.

I thought it was just him!

Interesting.

[Knowingishalf]

I think you are on to something here.  I think maybe it is that they have 0 tolerance to actually look for things, that would be work.  I know my wife is allergic to anything requiring effort on her part.  She requires anything and everything be completed for her.  Heck when she is actually tempted to cook dinner she can't be expected to even put water in the pan afterwards to assist in cleaning.  She actually says what I have to cook dinner and do the dishes?  So fantastic point perhaps it isn't the losing as much as it is the looking? 

[frustrated b/f]

Hmm, I wonder if you're on to something?

My uBPD ex g/f would constantly lose her ATM/Credit card. Usually every other month. She would constantly accuse someone of stealing it. Hell, I remember earlier on in the relationship, she accused me and my friend of stealing it from her.

[hurtbyboderline]

LOL, my exBPD lost many, many things but the best is she couldn't find the pink to her motorcycle. She sent for another one, lost it the first day & then sent for another! Never did find the 1st or 2nd lost ones... .oh & of course it was my fault!