Yes Briefcase I am starting to draw some parallels here too. It is hard work - it seems so bizarre to me that the reasons I left home at 17 seem to be similar behaviours which compel me now. I know that some of this is working through these old issues but logically it doesnt make sense that similar behaviours (sulking/silent treatment/raging etc) dont make me want to run away now? Behaviours which I have pretty much managed to steer clear of most of my adult life. These BPD r/s really force us to look at ourselves.
No, logically it doesn't make sense and I think it's because it's very
emotional in nature.
Working through what triggers us/compels us emotionally... . Recognizing when our own emotions are on overdrive. Finding ways to soothe ourselves
without the 'help' of our SO's-- stand ins for our parents (?).
I play a huge role in my relationship, Connect. It's uncanny how I revert back to a small child emotionally in some of my dealings with him. Hmm, do I revert, or have I been reactive in all of my relationships? With this one seeming to make me aware?
You're right, "These BPD r/s really force us to look at ourselves."