Lots of members struggling the past few days

[frustrated b/f]

Last year this time, (checks BPD diary in my iphone), I wrote to myself:

- I'm the only person motivated to making this joined family work.

- She would always find a way to separate herself from the only activates suggested.

- She would barely interact with my children, while I embraced hers

- No followup by her on anything ever discussed

- Consistent claims of helplessness, ignoring me, and any previous assurances of availability

[fromheeltoheal]

I dressed up as a borderline for Halloween; scared the hell out of everybody.

Yes, here come the Holidays, and we can decide now what we're going to make them mean.  Let's all focus for a minute on the unacceptable crap that happened in our relationships, the reasons the relationship ended, the growth we've done through the pain, and how good life is getting.  The New Year specifically, right around the corner, represents rebirth and a new start; how awesome is next year going to be?

[MammaMia]

Fromheeltoheal


Hahaha.  I wish you could send us a picture of your Halloween costume!

The Holidays are emotional enough.  Throw in a pwBPD, stir well, and you have

the makings for a disaster.  My dBPDs always hated Holidays.  I finally stopped

encouraging him to attend family functions.

It was his personal choice not to attend and everyone respected it.

Much better.  No guilt.  No drama.