It's over

[NoSocks]

Tonight was truely a meeting with my BPD H where I know it's over.I began on the staying board many months ago... .then moved to undecided... .now tonight I know I need to move to leaving. Throughout the relationship when ever I would strongly bring up his BPD traits he would say he though I have Bi polar. The last councilor we saw wanted both of us to get a formal assessment... .we did... And I have nothing. He came out with nothing eitherwhich is so odd because he currently is on s government program to assist persons with disability... .and has been on it since he wss 18... hes now 29. Hes been diagnosed with depression... practically his whole life... but he now figures he doesn t even need anti depressants.

After wanting to see my phone to see if Im recording hima few nights back when I told him I need some monthly help to meet my NEEDS as I am staying with family during this trail seperation... .he said he wanted to see bank statements ... .the works. I told him at that point it was over. He made me feel like a gold digging whore. Over $300. Can you believe this. Then after I stuck to my statement of wanting a divorce he went and saw a doc. Telling him he thinks I have Bi polar... .and now the doc wants to see us both. Im doing individual counselling and have been for5 or 6 months... .he on the other hand agrees he needs anger management and was told by our coupls therapist that he should begin individual counselling as well as beginning anger management. He hasnt done either in 5 weeks of being seperated. But has time to go to a doc about me.CLASSIC BPD!

[frag1911]

I'm sorry to hear you've reached your end.  I reached mine today in counseling, after she walked out.  While the counselor identified her as BPD early, it was never brought up yet.  Every session reinforced it.  I believe the counselor was ready to have individual sessions and approach it with her, but that isn't going to happen now.

Mine was spying on me, which was another issue today that ended things.  She's accessed my Facebook and email, all this time claiming to me and the counselor that she isn't spying, but every session calls me a liar. 

I can hope your doctor, who wants to see you both, isn't biased by the "first informer" tradition, and keeps an open mind.  Just let him know that you've already been evaluated.

I hope you are feeling ok.  Be good to yourself.