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Author Topic: Any chasing from her/is part ? and for how long?  (Read 488 times)
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« on: November 14, 2013, 05:29:05 PM »

For me it has lasted 5 years and a 3 years old which she planed 89% sure of it and still using this little kitten to get to me...

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« Reply #1 on: November 14, 2013, 05:31:24 PM »

She has been chasing and contacting you for 5 years?
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« Reply #2 on: November 14, 2013, 05:41:06 PM »

For me it has lasted 5 years and a 3 years old which she planed 89% sure of it and still using this little kitten to get to me...

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« Reply #3 on: November 14, 2013, 05:59:10 PM »

Yep we were friends ( with benefits) even though i had quite good boundaries than ,i made it clear, I now see red flags that i didn't see then. But like i told the cops once after he ask why i was so concerned of her and kept going back to her pleads, fake and manipulative, i answered" a friend don't let a friend down" little did i know i was in a though ride.  Sometime, most of the time i wonder if i, by the way i put her down, even though she was hooked tome, maybe it is me the reason she became like this. Because she didn't always black me out but over valued me and just constantly staring at me, wanted to do best for me but then my feelings weren't there. Now if only i knew , i feel terrible for her and for what it couldn't be.
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« Reply #4 on: November 14, 2013, 06:02:48 PM »

Have you maintained contact with her or has she just been texting you these 5 years?
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« Reply #5 on: November 14, 2013, 06:45:39 PM »

Of course i kept swing her telling her 2 years ago i was madly in love then on an off r/s now 5 months n/c from my part :'(
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« Reply #6 on: November 14, 2013, 08:18:39 PM »

Slap yourself man, you are doing NC good! Smiling (click to insert in post) This woman was never going to satisfy your needs. She had issues, you could'nt be her medicine, you're just a man, you can't cure her. There are other girls out there who will treat you right. Have you figured out why you were so attracted to that night-mare? BPD women  are not fit for any LTR ever. Stay strong dude!
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« Reply #7 on: November 14, 2013, 09:59:20 PM »

Thank Gleen, i know,i know but didn't we all feel at some point that even us have taken advantage of them ? I did but not to use her, but because i just did !

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« Reply #8 on: November 14, 2013, 10:02:16 PM »

By the way, what does LTR  means?
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« Reply #9 on: November 14, 2013, 10:27:43 PM »

LTR means long-term relationship. I will say it again. They are  not fit for an LTR. They are too damaged. Once you take your garbage to the curb, leave it there. Do you feel you owe her? What gives? This is about YOU. What are you going to do?
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« Reply #10 on: November 14, 2013, 10:46:19 PM »

LTR means long-term relationship. I will say it again. They are  not fit for an LTR. They are too damaged. Once you take your garbage to the curb, leave it there. Do you feel you owe her? What gives? This is about YOU. What are you going to do?

Bin oui c sur ! But my rational me knows i don't owe her f#ck all . I'm gonna keep moving on, it's been a great week,filled with acceptances and peace in me .
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« Reply #11 on: November 15, 2013, 03:40:45 AM »

Slap yourself man, you are doing NC good! Smiling (click to insert in post) This woman was never going to satisfy your needs. She had issues, you could'nt be her medicine, you're just a man, you can't cure her. There are other girls out there who will treat you right. Have you figured out why you were so attracted to that night-mare? BPD women  are not fit for any LTR ever. Stay strong dude!

Love it! Rofl, ditto.
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