Grief...

[LilMissSunshine]

"Grief never ends... .But it changes.

Its a passage, not a place to stay.

Grief is not a sign of weakness, nor

a lack of faith... .it is the price of love."

-Author Unknown-

                   

[MammaMia]

Sunshine

I do not know if you have lost someone or if you are talking about the grief brought on by a BPD diagnosis in a loved one.  The pain is very real for both.  Sadness and grief are necessary parts of life, but once you work past the pain and move into acceptance, life gets easier. 

Be kind to yourself and move forward when you are ready.  Knowledge is key in dealing with mental illness and acceptance as well as loss.  It is a place of peace.

Grief is not a place to live ... .but a place to visit before things get better.

[Turkish]

"Grief never ends... .But it changes.

Its a passage, not a place to stay.

Grief is not a sign of weakness, nor

a lack of faith... .it is the price of love."

-Author Unknown-

                 

I'd say if one didn't grieve,  then I've isn't human.  our at the very least,  didn't really love.  But similar  to what MM said,  not a place to dwell,  just somewhere to pass through. 

[LilMissSunshine]

Lost my x husband, suddenly, to "C" 6 months ago (we actually had a pretty good post D relationship - no mental illness or abuse involved).  Went NC with my uexBPDbf bout a month ago.

Both losses feel the same to me.  I grieve for different reasons, yet the pain is the same.