"but your not saying it right"

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

I swear to god every time i would argue with my now exBPD she would stomp around like a little girl screaming "but your not saying it right!". Like I'm not following the crazy script in her head.

[Kallor74]

I swear to god every time i would argue with my now exBPD she would stomp around like a little girl screaming "but your not saying it right!". Like I'm not following the crazy script in her head.

[DragoN]

Sounds about right. In the early years with my now exH, that was the case as well.

Crazy making behavior. May take some time to let go of the egg shell ingrained changes in your own behavior.

[huhhuh]

Holy c***... did you date my girlfriend? **

Mine said the exact same thing. word by word. No matter what we were arguing about. It was always "You are not saying it right", and she just got even madder.

[LilMissSunshine]

Yup. I never said or did anything right.  He even took pics of me when I was sleeping, to prove I didn't even "sleep" right.  I kid you not.

[necchi]

Lillmiss,  Lol ! You have got to be kidding  ?

that is one of the weirdest accusation someone can make?

Guess he had no inspirations that night !

[LilMissSunshine]

marinro7, I'm tellinyah... .no lie.  I'm even laughing right now.  I'm a side sleeper and he would freak if my back was towards him or... .he liked to be all "tucked" in tight.  Me?  I like to stick a foot out.  IDK why, but I do.    It drove him bahzerk.  So there's lilmiss sleepin with her lil foot sticking out or on her side facing the wall or maybe even cuddling a pillow, holy hit_.  Anyway, one day he said how nice it was when I didn't sleep over cuz the bed was so much easier to make.  "hit_ uexBPDbf... .I made the bed whenever I stayed over anyway".

I guess it's okay to  about some of this stuff, huh?

[Surnia]

My guess is that "not right" means "not like me"

For some SO  this is very difficult to deal with it. Her partners are thinking not the same thoughts, are doing not the same thing... .can be a huge trigger.

The sleeping thing is really weird!

[Aussie0zborn]

I like to stick a foot out.  IDK why, but I do.

Sticking your foot out from the bed covers lowers your body temperature.

Luckily, I never once had to endure, "you're not saying it right". I did however get, "I don't like the way you think", and "listen to what you're saying". 

[myself]

My guess is that "not right" means "not like me"

"Not the way I think I need, which won't work anyway"