Threats ?

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

Ok so here is the deal, I got a call from my ex tonight about slander.   I posted her pic and some info about her on a public cheating register side. She cheated on me so I made sure others are forewarned...   where is the problem?   She call me talking about I better take it down now or she is going to call the police.    Oh then I get a text asking if I egged her Finance`s car, yeah that dumb ass is already engaged just little over a month of being with this guy.  

So what do I do here?

[Grissum69]

Ok so here is the deal, I got a call from my ex tonight about slander.   I posted her pic and some info about her on a public cheating register side. She cheated on me so I made sure others are forewarned...   where is the problem?   She call me talking about I better take it down now or she is going to call the police.    Oh then I get a text asking if I egged her Finance`s car, yeah that dumb ass is already engaged just little over a month of being with this guy.  

So what do I do here?

[free-n-clear]

where is the problem?  

  The problem is that you're just giving her more ammunition. She's going to be bad-mouthing you to anyone who'll listen anyway, so why lend her any credibility?

So what do I do here?

   What you don't do is lower yourself to her level.

[VeryFree]

Hatefullness and revenge is something that belongs to BPD's. Try to stand above that.

Learn from your past, forget her and go on with your life.

[Grissum69]

I realize my emotions got the best of me  :'( 

[free-n-clear]

I realize my emotions got the best of me  :'( 

      It happens to all of us, Greengiant, don't beat yourself up over it. Next time you're feeling that pissed off, just ask yourself "Is she worth the effort, let alone any further grief?" I think you know what the answer is.

[Pretty Woman]

GreenGiant,

   Don't feel bad. But like the posters here said, don't give her any ammo. These people are vindictive and cruel. My ex sued her own father. One person on here was stabbed 15 times by an ex.

You have no idea what is going on in their head.

Best revenge: Silence and moving on from their toxc bullcrap.

[Waifed]

Greengiant

I think it is pretty funny what you did.  In the heat of the moment I did some crazy stuff as well.  She also threatened to sue me and also had the cops call me.  I was kind of scared because i didn't know if what I did was actually illegal (It wasn't).  It was pretty much immoral and I wouldn't have done it again, but at the time I was totally out of my head.  I did send her an email apologizing a couple of months after the fact.

How the heck did she find out you posted it?  They like to run away from the past and anything in writing or pictures is the devil to them.  They lose control.  If she is a narc or has strong tendencies it is probably best that you remove the post and just go NC.  The lack of control could drive her to do something crazy... . as in crazier than anything you think she is capable of.  

Once you begin to heal you will look back and probably wish you hadn't posted the stuff, but if not that is ok too.  No one ever stands up to these people.  They are enabled their entire lives.  You have taken the control and she is at a loss about what to do.  She will try to get even some how.  

[State85]

Like Earthangel said:

The best revenge is silence. They cannot stand when you ignore them.

[Aussie0zborn]

Like Earthangel said:

The best revenge is silence. They cannot stand when you ignore them.

Very true and in my opinion, the best course of action.

Your action is quite understandable BUT when you get tangled up in their mess they just drag you down to their level and then they beat you with experience. You can't compete with that, but you can ignore.

[Grissum69]

 I let the heat of the moment get to me...   my mistake :'(

[free-n-clear]

  Stop beating yourself up over it. As Waifed said, it was actually pretty funny. But in future when you feel the urge to lash out at her, jump on to this site instead and vent here, ok?

[Grissum69]

I can't seem to calm down since finding out last night.    :'(   I don't know what to do

[Pretty Woman]

Take a deep breath in your nose.

Exhale slowly... . really slow.  If you feel panicked try this a few times.

Whats done is done. Just remove the post and relax my friend.

[seeking balance]

I can't seem to calm down since finding out last night.    :'(   I don't know what to do

Go run or take a kickboxing class or paint your house - get that physical energy out in a more productive way.

I understand your anger, I really do - be productive with it.

[Grissum69]

Well I was shock last night and so sleep was not in the picture at all...    I had to the ER today and talk with someone because I was in bad shape.  My BP was 185 over 90  :'(

I had a pretty good session with the shrink at the hospital, very interesting and eye opening conversation.