OMG Today's venemous texts

[Iwalk-Heruns]

Iwalk,

She would view them as an extension of herself as she does already and they are not even born. that is a recipe for how you create an NPD. Possibly BPD. From what I have gathered anyway.

My therapist said the same thing!  Great perspective.

Ha! Sounds like you have a great therapist!   he he.

[arn131arn]

I have to vent on here because she just threw me for another loop.  After a few days of calm and peace and nice texts, even a photo of herself, today I got the venom.  Back story: any time someone we know gets pregnant, it's very upsetting to her.  (I didn't want to have kids because of all the dysfunctions) Even though we are separated for 4 months she expects me to tell her when someone gets pregnant so she doesn't hear it for herself.  Well, I didn't because I was afraid of setting her off.  (My mistake for being chicken)  She found out today.  Here's how the texts went:

Wife: (Friend) is pregnant?  She's due in MARCH?  Are you fu$king kidding me with this?

Me: Yeah I just heard myself (lie on my part, but whatever).

Wife: How many times have I asked you about them since I left?  And how many times have I cried to you about how important it is for me to hear about those things from you so I don't just see it somewhere or hear about it from someone who acts like I know?  How insensitive can you be?  Bull$hit.  You heard when.  She is due in three months.

Me: When I talked with them last week.  (lie on my part, I was scared )  I didn't want you to be upset over Chirstmas.

Wife: WOW ARE YOU SERIOUS?  You didn't want to upset me?  So you LIE?

Me:  I lied?  Not engaging you right now.  Goodbye.

Wife:  And then hurt me way way more like I always say you do and then you don't listen?  FU$K YOU.  Fu$k you and your selfish nature who puts other people in pain so you aren't slightly uncomfortable.  I am DONE being treated this way.

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Let's keep in mind folks that she is having sex with multiple men during our "trial separation and promised no to see anyone" and is lying about it to my face.

What a Monday.

Hi Seeking,

Even if she wasn't cheating(which of course is horrible) this conversation would have been outrageous. Why is it your responsibility to inform her or even protect her from something ridiculous. Someone else having a baby shouldn't be cause for such outrage. Just because she wants one. I understand that it would be hard for someone but this sense of entitlement is off the charts.

I think you mentioned that the issue is she was having trouble getting pregnant is that correct? Can't remember for sure. I guess I just worry if there is a slip up someday with you two, which can happen we are all human that she could get pregnant. Trap you!. Not to mention there is no way this woman would not totally screw up and destroy a child. She would view them as an extension of herself as she does already and they are not even born. that is a recipe for how you create an NPD. Possibly BPD. From what I have gathered anyway.

Please be careful!

SAC,

You have your evidence.  Go NC immediately and wait for the court date.  

The element of surprise... .

That's my Italian talking

[Lol4fun]

Wow sucks to get those type of texts. I thought I might be the only one to have gotten such things. Reading her text and how she went off the handle was/is so eerily similar to my exuBdpbf just substitute it with a different topic. Hope you are able to let go & find some peace!

[Iwalk-Heruns]

I have to vent on here because she just threw me for another loop.  After a few days of calm and peace and nice texts, even a photo of herself, today I got the venom.  Back story: any time someone we know gets pregnant, it's very upsetting to her.  (I didn't want to have kids because of all the dysfunctions) Even though we are separated for 4 months she expects me to tell her when someone gets pregnant so she doesn't hear it for herself.  Well, I didn't because I was afraid of setting her off.  (My mistake for being chicken)  She found out today.  Here's how the texts went:

Wife: (Friend) is pregnant?  She's due in MARCH?  Are you fu$king kidding me with this?

Me: Yeah I just heard myself (lie on my part, but whatever).

Wife: How many times have I asked you about them since I left?  And how many times have I cried to you about how important it is for me to hear about those things from you so I don't just see it somewhere or hear about it from someone who acts like I know?  How insensitive can you be?  Bull$hit.  You heard when.  She is due in three months.

Me: When I talked with them last week.  (lie on my part, I was scared )  I didn't want you to be upset over Chirstmas.

Wife: WOW ARE YOU SERIOUS?  You didn't want to upset me?  So you LIE?

Me:  I lied?  Not engaging you right now.  Goodbye.

Wife:  And then hurt me way way more like I always say you do and then you don't listen?  FU$K YOU.  Fu$k you and your selfish nature who puts other people in pain so you aren't slightly uncomfortable.  I am DONE being treated this way.

--------

Let's keep in mind folks that she is having sex with multiple men during our "trial separation and promised no to see anyone" and is lying about it to my face.

What a Monday.

Hi Seeking,

Even if she wasn't cheating(which of course is horrible) this conversation would have been outrageous. Why is it your responsibility to inform her or even protect her from something ridiculous. Someone else having a baby shouldn't be cause for such outrage. Just because she wants one. I understand that it would be hard for someone but this sense of entitlement is off the charts.

I think you mentioned that the issue is she was having trouble getting pregnant is that correct? Can't remember for sure. I guess I just worry if there is a slip up someday with you two, which can happen we are all human that she could get pregnant. Trap you!. Not to mention there is no way this woman would not totally screw up and destroy a child. She would view them as an extension of herself as she does already and they are not even born. that is a recipe for how you create an NPD. Possibly BPD. From what I have gathered anyway.

Please be careful!

SAC,

You have your evidence.  Go NC immediately and wait for the court date.  

The element of surprise... .

That's my Italian talking

You mean revenge is a dish best served cold right?

[SeekingAdviceinCa]

Thanks 4fun.

I'm sorry you can relate to this!  It's horrible isn't it?  It's that "waiting for the other shoe to drop feeling."  I'm working hard on moving on. I need peace and not near this type of thing anymore.

[SeekingAdviceinCa]

Arn131,

Agreed. Timing is everything!  I have to decide how I want to address this once my paperwork is done. So many options... .

[arn131arn]

I have to vent on here because she just threw me for another loop.  After a few days of calm and peace and nice texts, even a photo of herself, today I got the venom.  Back story: any time someone we know gets pregnant, it's very upsetting to her.  (I didn't want to have kids because of all the dysfunctions) Even though we are separated for 4 months she expects me to tell her when someone gets pregnant so she doesn't hear it for herself.  Well, I didn't because I was afraid of setting her off.  (My mistake for being chicken)  She found out today.  Here's how the texts went:

Wife: (Friend) is pregnant?  She's due in MARCH?  Are you fu$king kidding me with this?

Me: Yeah I just heard myself (lie on my part, but whatever).

Wife: How many times have I asked you about them since I left?  And how many times have I cried to you about how important it is for me to hear about those things from you so I don't just see it somewhere or hear about it from someone who acts like I know?  How insensitive can you be?  Bull$hit.  You heard when.  She is due in three months.

Me: When I talked with them last week.  (lie on my part, I was scared )  I didn't want you to be upset over Chirstmas.

Wife: WOW ARE YOU SERIOUS?  You didn't want to upset me?  So you LIE?

Me:  I lied?  Not engaging you right now.  Goodbye.

Wife:  And then hurt me way way more like I always say you do and then you don't listen?  FU$K YOU.  Fu$k you and your selfish nature who puts other people in pain so you aren't slightly uncomfortable.  I am DONE being treated this way.

--------

Let's keep in mind folks that she is having sex with multiple men during our "trial separation and promised no to see anyone" and is lying about it to my face.

What a Monday.

Hi Seeking,

Even if she wasn't cheating(which of course is horrible) this conversation would have been outrageous. Why is it your responsibility to inform her or even protect her from something ridiculous. Someone else having a baby shouldn't be cause for such outrage. Just because she wants one. I understand that it would be hard for someone but this sense of entitlement is off the charts.

I think you mentioned that the issue is she was having trouble getting pregnant is that correct? Can't remember for sure. I guess I just worry if there is a slip up someday with you two, which can happen we are all human that she could get pregnant. Trap you!. Not to mention there is no way this woman would not totally screw up and destroy a child. She would view them as an extension of herself as she does already and they are not even born. that is a recipe for how you create an NPD. Possibly BPD. From what I have gathered anyway.

Please be careful!

SAC,

You have your evidence.  Go NC immediately and wait for the court date.  

The element of surprise... .

That's my Italian talking

You mean revenge is a dish best served cold right?

Fuh git abowt it

[Iwalk-Heruns]

HA!

[oblivian2013]

I have been going over some emails from last summer before NC looking for threats at the behest of my attorney. I showed a few of them to my therapist. He said, "Why are you still reading those? They are sadistic!" He pointed out her pattern of tearing me down for the first three quarters of the message and ending on how much she still loved me and hoped for the best. So, I found the ones useful to my attorney and have no desire to review them ever again!

[Iwalk-Heruns]

Fuh git abowt it

I think he needs go to the mattresses!   And I don't mean bed! Yo!

[arn131arn]

Fuh git abowt it

I think he needs go to the mattresses!   And I don't mean bed! Yo!

No doubt... . just leave the gun and grab the cannolis (my fave... . i love clamenza)

[SeekingAdviceinCa]

Cannolis... . Yummmm. I'm hungry