the final straw goes like this...

[thesculptor]

she called the cops on me. she claims on the abusive one.

and now i have to defend myself. get a lawyer if i have to.

now the kicker is this... .

she says she's dropping charges but won't go sign off on them.

she told me the charges have been dropped, but ... .

this weekend she really wanted to spend time with me. we spoke well. we got along, we were intimate.

but now she says she doesn't want to see me. to be honest I'm relieved about everything except the open case ... .

she said, " I'm not gonna press charges, if thats not enough who cares. "

she called the cops for cake on her face ... . this after she told me " i met someone else. "

so yeah.

im so tired its not even funny. help me. someone help me... . any lawyers out there?

we are on speaking terms. but we have agreed to a break up now.

-Jacob

[arn131arn]

mine called the cops on me five times.

Mine never showed up for court bc she knew it was bogus.

My rec is to get a good DV lawyer.

if it a misdemeanor, you will prob get a judge trial, not a jury trial...

If I had it all over again, I would have demanded a trial.  It is your right, and if it is false- fight it TIL THE END!

Don't let the DA, judge or your attorney scare u into taking a guilty plea with probation

[arn131arn]

oh, and don't ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever go back to this kind of woman again!

If they called them once they will call them again... . that's the last thing my dad told me before he died.

She WILL destroy you

[Pretty Woman]

Sculptor,

  I just texted you but to reiterate... . she is dangerous. You are playing a game with her by even responding and definitely by keeping intimate with this woman.

I know you and I have been chatting and you value my words. Please listen. She is NOT the end all be all. You shared some very private things with me and from the bottom of my heart... . some of the stuff she has done is criminal towards you.

Next she will be accusing you of rape after consentual sex. I don't want to see that happen to you. You are young. You will find a better girl. A healthy one.

[Mutt]

Hey thesculptor,

I know that stress with charges and court. I don't know all of the details of your situation, but my ex did it to punish me. I couldn't talk her out of it due to her "black" thinking. I was really nervous and stressed out for months.  The charges got dropped in court. I'll never forget that feeling.

Get a lawyer. Call lawyers and get a 30 minute consultation to find out what you can do. Good luck.

[Waifed]

Mine called the cops after I broke up with her, she was still texting me LC for two weeks and then the day after I told her she might have BPD I get a call from the cops asking me not to contact her or her friends anymore.

Why do they call the police?  Hurt, anger, loss of control?  Does anyone have any info on this?

[Mutt]

Why do they call the police?  Hurt, anger, loss of control?  :)oes anyone have any info on this?

Mine left and painted me black. She called the cops if I mentioned anything about the marriage, divorce, called her out, confronted her with the truth etc... . She's quick to pull the trigger and if I say the truth it's her version of "harassment".

It's browbeating, intimidation, anything to have her not deal with reality and ownership of anything. It's to shut you down. I'm only speaking from my experience and the things that I deal with with the ex.

I know how far I can push it with her before the "I'll call the police!" card comes out. That's if I hold her accountable, I call her out on her distortions, I speak the truth... . There's a distinct pattern.

I point out the abusive behaviors to her and I don't let her push me around with her bullying, but beyond that... . I let it go. I've made my point. I'm convinced that she doesn't understand what I'm saying when I point out the abusive behaviors.

[Lucky Jim]

Hey Sculptor, This is a no-brainer.  Get out of the r/s.  Move on.  She has made the decision easy for you.  End it.  Get back some semblance of a normal life!  LJ

[Perfidy]

Sculptor, sucky situation,... . If your smearing cake in her face she isn't exactly bringing out the best in you. One of my ex's called the cops on me because she thought I was cheating on her. I wasn't. I had not even raised my voice let alone touched her. The cops asked me to stay elsewhere for the night. Next day I came back and said "cya!" That was it! Packed up my stuff and never spoke to her again. It was even my place! Didn't even look back. i didn't need a criminal record over a piece of a$$. We were together almost four years.