What Songs? Everything has changed

[almosthadme]

Buckcherry - Crazy Bhit

This about sums it up.

I should have got the hint when we had sex for one of the first times she cranked this song LMAO

[MyGreatEscape]

I've noticed that "Pink" and Katy Perry both have songs that sound a whole lot like BPD traits:

Pink, Just Give Me a Reason

"Right from the start

You were a thief, you stole my heart

And I your willing victim

I let you see the parts of me, that weren't all that pretty

And with every touch you fixed them

Now you've been talking in your sleep oh oh

Things you never say to me oh oh

Tell me that you've had enough

Of our love, our love

Just give me a reason, just a little bit's enough

Just a second we're not broken just bent, and we can learn to love again

It's in the stars, it's been written in the scars on our hearts

We're not broken just bent, and we can learn to love again

I'm sorry I don't understand

Where all of this is coming from

I thought that we were fine (Oh we had everything)

Your head is running wild again

My dear we still have everythin'

And it's all in your mind (Yeah but this is happenin'

You've been havin' real bad dreams oh oh

You used to lie so close to me oh oh

There's nothing more than empty sheets between our love, our love

Oh our love, our love... . "

And Katy Perry... . I think she's been with a few BPD people from her lyrics!

Hot N Cold:

"You're wrong when it's right

It's black and it's white

We fight, we break up

We kiss, we make up

You don't really want to stay,

But you don't really want to go

You're hot then you're cold

You're yes then you're no

You're in then you're out

You're up then you're down

Someone call the doctor

Got a case of a love bi-polar

Stuck on a roller coaster

Can't get off this ride"


And then Wide Awake:

"Yeah, I was in the dark

I was falling hard

With an open heart

I'm wide awake

How did I read the stars so wrong?

(I'm wide awake)

And now it's clear to me

That everything you see

Ain't always what it seems

I'm wide awake

Yeah, I was dreaming for so long

I wish I knew then

What I know now

Wouldn't dive in

Wouldn't bow down

Gravity hurts

You made it so sweet

Till I woke up on

On the concrete

Falling from cloud nine

Crashing from the high

I'm letting go tonight

Yeah I'm falling from cloud nine

Thunder rumbling

Castles crumbling (I'm wide awake)

I am trying to hold on (I'm wide awake)

God knows that I tried

Seeing the bright side (I'm wide awake)

I'm not blind anymore"


And then there's ROAR:

"I used to bite my tongue and hold my breath

Scared to rock the boat and make a mess

So I sat quietly, agreed politely

I guess that I forgot I had a choice

I let you push me past the breaking point

I stood for nothing, so I fell for everything

You held me down, but I got up

Already brushing off the dust

You hear my voice, your hear that sound

Like thunder, gonna shake your ground

You held me down, but I got up

Get ready cause I’ve had enough

I see it all, I see it now

I've got the eye of the tiger, a fighter, dancing through the fire

Cause I am a champion and you’re gonna hear me ROAR

Louder, louder than a lion

Cause I am a champion and you’re gonna hear me ROAR

Oh oh oh oh oh oh

You’re gonna hear me roar"


See... . even celebs with a bootyload of money, beauty and/or fame deal with crazies. Or they are the crazies, who knows. Either way, we are SO not alone in dealing with this people... . they are immortalized in pop culture forever... .

[Proud_Dad]

I readt his thread a few weeks ago. Then I heard this song last night. I have always loved this song, but I have not heard it in years. This song is about basic human nature but it has a whole new meaning after being involved with a pwBPD.

Billy Joel - She's Always a Woman To Me

She can kill with a smile

She can wound with her eyes

She can ruin your faith with her casual lies

And she only reveals what she wants you to see

She hides like a child,

But she's always a woman to me

She can lead you to love

She can take you or leave you

She can ask for the truth

But she'll never believe you

And she'll take what you give her, as long as it's free

Yeah, she steals like a thief

But she's always a woman to me

CHORUS:

Oh--she takes care of herself

She can wait if she wants

She's ahead of her time

Oh--and she never gives out

And she never gives in

She just changes her mind

And she'll promise you more

Than the Garden of Eden

Then she'll carelessly cut you

And laugh while you're bleedin'

But she'll bring out the best

And the worst you can be

Blame it all on yourself

Cause she's always a woman to me

--Mhmm--

Bridge

CHORUS:

Oh--she takes care of herself

She can wait if she wants

She's ahead of her time

Oh--and she never gives out

And she never gives in

She just changes her mind

She is frequently kind

And she's suddenly cruel

She can do as she pleases

She's nobody's fool

And she can't be convicted

She's earned her degree

And the most she will do

Is throw shadows at you

But she's always a woman to me

--Mhmm--

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kI3MwwWYC3Q

[mywifecrazy]

Wow proud Dad. I've heard this song hundreds if times but never looked deeply into the lyrics.  God that describes a woman with BPD to a T... . EERY! 

[Proud_Dad]

mywifecrazy,

I agree, it stopped me in my tracks. The funny thing is my uBPDgf and I were making dinner when it came on and she turned it up and says "Oh my God! I love this song". All i could say was "ya, me too".

[mywifecrazy]

mywifecrazy,

I agree, it stopped me in my tracks. The funny thing is my uBPDgf and I were making dinner when it came on and she turned it up and says "Oh my God! I love this song". All i could say was "ya, me too".

Well at least you're learning about BPD so there's a chance your relationship will survive?

I didn't know anything about BPD until after My wife was caught in an affair. One of many it turns out. A very ugly divorce ensued and now she is so out of control that I'm raising my (2) sons myself.

If I had known about BPD things might have been different. The girl I thought I knew never existed.  Reminds me of a Led Zeppelin lyric from "Going To California":

"Ride a White Mare on the Footsteps of Dawn, Trying to find a Women Who's never, never, never been Born".

[Proud_Dad]

I have been listening to a lot of my old favorites lately and Led Zeppelin has always been toward the top of my list. Funny that you should mention "Going to California" as I heard it over the weekend... . it hit home more than it ever.

"Ride a White Mare on the Footsteps of Dawn, Trying to find a Women Who's never, never, never been Born".

I got chills when I read your post. When I heard that line in the song I wanted to cry... . I guess my current situation has me looking for meaning and validation in music more.

I love my uBPDgf dearly, but I often find myself dreaming about raising my boys (2 also) on my own. I know it would be difficult but at least I would not have to worry about BPD BS. However, she would never relinquish control of our children to me, not in a million years. The best I could even hope for is 50/50.

[Pecator]

Alright P' Daddy,

Now you just pissed me off!

But first let me say how grateful I am that you revived this link. I would have never found it with out you bringing it up again!

Music has always been so healing to me. I have had a hard emotional day. I started to rest by intellectual pursuits at a time when I know that was not the answer. I followed this thread.

What a wonderful evening rediscovering songs I thought I knew and discovering new material that I will add to my collection.

However (feigning anger)

I spent the evening with this tread to see if anyone brought up a so obvious winner.

A song we loved at first, but then grew tired of (in itself typical)

Gotye-Somebody That I Used To Know

It is the perfect, classic example…

Until your post!

I remember getting getting my first paper route at age 11. I joined one of those "Colombia House" get x albums for just a penny. After the onslaught of the first x albums, I received the first one I paid for myself. It was this very album. I can remember pulling out the album sleeve and saying to myself, "this is the ultimate cool!" I learned every note of that album. My love of music grew exponentially. Today, I have hundreds of thousands of songs from Bach to Eminem (and soon thanks to this thread "Buckcherry" on my computer at my beck 'n call. However, I still have that exact (almost 40 year-old) album on my shelf. I identified with this song before, but never knew it like I do now after your post. [I wonder if this may be a source of BJ's struggles today]

You win!

This is the quintessential song.

But I hope this thread stays alive. Sharing music that heals can be as important as sharing thoughts that heal

[day2day]

"Angel Face" by Tony Banks of Genesis, sung by Fish

"Long Cold Day" sung by Fish

"One" sung by Bono (U2)

These songs won't make you sad. They'll help you vent.

[mywifecrazy]

WOW another Zeppelin Song!

Dazed and Confused

Been Dazed and Confused for so long it's not true.

Wanted a woman, never bargained for you.

Lots of people talkin', few of them know

Soul of a woman was created below.

You hurt and abuse tellin' all of your lies.

Run around sweet baby, Lord how you hypnotize.

Sweet little baby, I don't know where you've been.

Gonna love you baby, here I come again.

Every day I work so hard, bringin' home my hard earned pay

Try to love you baby, but you push me away.

Don't know where you're goin', only know just where you've been,

Sweet little baby, I want you again.

Been dazed and confused for so long, it's not true.

Wanted a woman, never bargained for you.

Take it easy baby, let them say what they will.

Will your tongue wag so much when I send you the bill?

[Proud_Dad]

Pecator,

I am with you in the connection to emotional music. This type of song never hit me like they have lately. I have always loved music as well and have a very vast collection from classical to bluegrass, from big band to emerging 80's punk, and everything in between. Before my relationship with my pwBPD I always connected to the energy of the music and the place it took me. I have recently found myself scrutinizing lyrics in an attempt to find solace in the shared experiences and trauma.  This has allowed me an additional outlet for my frustration in my r/s with my uBPDgf and I can take my enjoyment of music to another level. I am an engineer by trade (not conducive to BPD r/s btw) and these outlets are much needed by the end of a long day, and allow my uBPDgf and I to connect on neutral ground. 

I hope I didn't ruin this song for you by pointing out my perception of BPD behavior in Bill's lyrics. I have always loved this song, now I feel like I owe Bill a beer.

mywifecrazy,

Any song by Zeppelin is welcome on my playlist at any time of day. Again, I have always connected to ":)azed and Confused" and never understood why until my current r/s.

KEEP 'EM COMIN!

[mywifecrazy]

Heartbreaker-Led Zeppelin

Well, it's been ten years and maybe more since I first set eyes on you.

The best years of my life gone by, here I am alone and blue.

Some people cry and some people die by the wicked ways of love;

But I'll just keep on rollin' along with the grace from the Lord above.

People talkin' all around 'bout the way you left me flat,

I don't care what the people say, I know where their jive is at.

One thing I do have on my mind, if you can clarify please do,

It's the way you call me another guy's name when I try to make love to you.

I try to make love but it ain't no use.

Give it to me

Give it

Work so hard I couldn't unwind, get some money saved;

Abuse my love a thousand times, however hard I tried.

Heartbreaker, your time has come, can't take your evil way;

Go away, Heartbreaker.

Heartbreaker!

Heartbreaker!

Heart!

[Bane]

Depeche Mode  Shake the disease, Precious, Its no good.

[supernurse]

"Cold" and "She's So Mean" by Matchbox 20:

"Cold"

I will do without

The spaces in between

If you can tell me now

What it means to be

You have been found out

I have been deceived

By the one that I need

Tell me why you gotta be so cold

How'd you get so high

Why you're keeping me low

You dont know, you don't know

Tell me how we're gonna make it last

You're ready to fly

I'm ready to crash

Don't go, don't go, no

You will go without

A better part of me

There will be no doubt

What this all could mean

You will be found out

I can not believe

In the one that I need

Tell me why you gotta be so cold

How'd you get so high

Why you're keeping me low

You don't know, you don't know, don't know

And tell me how we're gonna make it last

You're ready to fly

I'm ready to crash

Don't go, don't go away


"She's So Mean"

I kn-kn-know a girl, she gets what she wants all the time

'Cause she's fine

But for an angel, she's a hot hot mess

Make you so blind

But you don't mind

'Cause she's an uptown, get-around, anything-goes girl, girl

She's a hardcore, candy-store, gimme-some-more girl, girl

She'll make you take her to the club, but then she leaves with her friends

She likes to stay late at the party, 'cause the fun never ends

And all her clothes are on the floor and all your records are scratched

She's like a one-way ticket 'cause you can't come back!

Saying yeah... . you want her, but she's so mean

(You’ll never let her go. Why don’t you let her go?)

Yeah... . you want her, but she's so mean

(You’ll never let her go. Why don’t you let her go?)

You kn-kn-know that if you don’t shut your mouth, she’ll freak out

You better get your hit together, ‘cause she’s bringing you down now

Yeah boy you better, you better

'Cause she's an uptown, get-around, anything-goes girl, girl

She's a hardcore, candy-store, gimme-some-more girl, girl

She’s got her wicked sense of humor, can’t believe what she says

She drinks Bacardi in the morning ‘til it goes to her head

And all you want is just to hold her, but she don’t go for that

She has a hard time coming when she can’t hit back

Saying yeah... . you want her, but she's so mean

(You’ll never let her go. Why don’t you let her go?)

Yeah... . you want her, but she's so mean

(You’ll never let her go. Why don’t you let her go?)

Every now and then, she makes you just a little bit crazy

She’ll turn a knife into your back and then she’s calling you baby, crazy

She'll make you take her to the club, but then she leaves with her friends

She likes to stay late at the party, 'cause the fun never ends

And all her clothes are on the floor and all your records are scratched

She's like a one-way ticket 'cause you can't come back!

Saying yeah... . you want her, but she's so mean

(You’ll never let her go. Why don’t you let her go?)

Yeah... . you want her, but she's so mean

(You’ll never let her go. Why don’t you let her go?)

[Tired_of_this12345]

A couple great ones:

Replace you (acoustic) by silverstein and My Herioine (acoustic) by silverstein. 

replace you talks about someone destroying his life.   best part is when he talks about repeating the cycle, the same mistakes we've always made

my heroine is comparing her to a drug. 

I happen to like the acoustic versions.

[eyvindr]

New one I just heard from a guy named Parker Millsap -- "The Villain."

I don't wanna be

The villain in your dreams any more

I don't wanna be

The reason you lose sleep anymore

I don't wanna be the one

That locks the door and loads the gun

and pulls the trigger 'til you wake up sore

I don't wanna be

The villain in your dreams anymore

I don't wanna be

the one that lets you down anymore

I don't wanna be

The gravity the ground anymore

I don't wanna be the man

that lifts you up and helps you stand

then holds you high and drops you to the floor

I don't wanna be

The one that lets you down anymore

I don't wanna be

The one that holds you back anymore

I don't wanna be

The missing piece of track anymore

I don't wanna be the guy

that straps you to a railroad tie

and listens for the rumble and the roar

I don't wanna be

the villain in your dreams anymore

Interesting how it can be interpreted from both sides, too. Could be an abuser's prayer for redemption or a partner/friend/family member's response to being repeatedly painted black. Either way, worth a listen.

[hope2727]

The new song by John Legend hit home for me:


All of me:

What would I do without your smart mouth

Drawing me in, and you kicking me out

You've got my head spinning, no kidding, I can't pin you down

What's going on in that beautiful mind

I'm on your magical mystery ride

And I'm so dizzy, don't know what hit me, but I'll be alright


My head's under water

But I'm breathing fine

You're crazy and I'm out of my mind

'Cause all of me

Loves all of you

Love your curves and all your edges

All your perfect imperfections

Give your all to me

I'll give my all to you

You're my end and my beginning

Even when I lose I'm winning

'Cause I give you all of me

And you give me all of you, oh


How many times do I have to tell you

Even when you're crying you're beautiful too

The world is beating you down, I'm around through every mood

You're my downfall, you're my muse

My worst distraction, my rhythm and blues

I can't stop singing, it's ringing, in my head for you

My head's under water

But I'm breathing fine

You're crazy and I'm out of my mind


'Cause all of me

Loves all of you

Love your curves and all your edges

All your perfect imperfections

Give your all to me

I'll give my all to you

You're my end and my beginning

Even when I lose I'm winning

'Cause I give you all of me

And you give me all of you, oh

Give me all of you

Cards on the table, we're both showing hearts

Risking it all, though it's hard


'Cause all of me

Loves all of you

Love your curves and all your edges

All your perfect imperfections

Give your all to me

I'll give my all to you

You're my end and my beginning

Even when I lose I'm winning

'Cause I give you all of me

And you give me all of you

I give you all of me

And you give me all of you, oh

I love this song. My ex once texted me the whole song. I suspect it was how we both felt about one another. I know its how i feel about him.

[Cloudy Days]

I bawled like a baby the first time I heard the song all of me. It certainly hits home for both me and my husband. This isn't his sort of song but it touched his heart as well as mine.

[Ripped Heart]

Taylor Swift - Blank Space

I think many on here can relate to this song.

Nice to meet you

Where you been?

I could show you incredible things

Magic, madness, heaven, sin

Saw you there and I thought oh my god

Look at that face, you look like my next mistake

Love's a game, wanna play

New money, suit and tie

I can read you like a magazine

Ain't it funny rumors fly

And I know you heard about me

So hey, let's be friends

I'm dying to see how this one ends

Grab your passport and my hand

I could make the bad guys good for a weekend

[Pre-Chorus]

So it's gonna be forever

Or it's gonna go down in flames

You can tell me when it's over

If the high was worth the pain

Got a long list of ex-lovers

They'll tell you I'm insane

Cause you know I love the players

And you love the game

[Chorus]

Cause we're young and we're reckless

We'll take this way too far

It'll leave you breathless

Or with a nasty scar

Got a long list of ex-lovers

They'll tell you I'm insane

But I got a blank space baby

And I'll write your name

Cherry lips

Crystal skies

I could show you incredible things

Stolen kisses, pretty lies

You're the king baby I'm your queen

Find out what you want

Be that girl for a month

But the worst is yet to come

Oh no

Screaming, crying, perfect storms

I could make all the tables turn

Rose garden filled with thorns

Keep you second guessing like oh my god

Who is she? I get drunk on jealousy

But you'll come back each time you leave

Cause darling I'm a nightmare dressed like a daydream

Source: www.directlyrics.com/taylor-swift-blank-spaces-lyrics.html

When gf is in one of her withdrawals, there are 3 songs she plays over and over again.

Sam Smith - Stay with me

Rita Ora - I will never let you down

Eminem - Evil Twin