PTSD

[moonunit]

My SO is now going to a therapist (4 sessions), her therapist has told her that she thinks it could be PTSD.

Has anyone else had their SO diagnosed like this ?

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[elemental]

I think mine has PTSD. He's a bundle of nerves that never really calms down for long. He refuses to see a doctor about any psych thing, so can't tell for sure.

The things that cause BPD are pretty traumatic things.

[Love Is Not Enough]

That is probably correct as a co-morbid diagnosis. I believe my gf also suffers with PTSD from event in her past. Either from early childhood trauma or situations they get themselves into as adults. Such as abusive relationships.

[moonunit]

That is good to know that i am not alone in this thinking.

The events that my SO went through definately would cause an individual to suffer from many different mental issues.

[an0ught]

That is good to know that i am not alone in this thinking.

The events that my SO went through definately would cause an individual to suffer from many different mental issues.

There may have been extreme and abusive events which left your SO traumatized. It is however worth keeping in perspective that the memory of these events may well be distorted or not even fully reachable by your SO if SO suffers from PTSD. After all not integrated memories are a key PTSD mechanism. You have to accept SO's current view of the past as is and validate but keep in mind that less involved observer may report a different factual truth. Integrating these memories and putting them into perspective is now job of SO with the T. Leaves you to deal with more pleasant aspects of the relationship.

[misssouthernbelle]

I thoroughly believe this is possible. I met my pwBPD after he had been out of his abusive relationship for 6 months. I thought PTSD was all it was. But, as time went on, I knew it was more. I think he has both. He still has nightmares, flashbacks, triggers, etc. I agree. After being molested as a child by his own father and being in abusive relationships ever since, he's severely traumatized. He wants love so bad, but does everything to push it away. I think the trauma causes them to distort their perceptions of true caring and love, thus getting themselves into more bad situations and more pain.

That's why it's so hard when you do care.

[elemental]

My boyfriend has been beaten and attacked by his ex and his in laws. They bullied and shamed him for years and years. I know that is part of why he got hooked back into them (FOG) and went back to his ex for a while, and it is part of why he gives me the silent treatment. He gets very upset and angry and wants to hurt "back".  It's at that point I JADE and try to explain and reason. Trick is learning to catch myself as much as I can and not panic.