Want to hear a good one?

[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

good for you!

[growing_wings]

good for you!

[GreenMango]

Perfidy you sound like you are making huge strides. 

[Perfidy]

Not really greenmango, just a lot of really tiny ones. A lot of them. I have come a long way and I'm still learning. I've put a lot into this and it is paying off. Thank you and I hope you are well also.   

[GreenMango]

Lol lots of small ones! That's good too.

you sound. ... dare I say it optimistic!   

It's great to read when people turn a corner. 

[Perfidy]

Well, I've always been a strong person. I'm getting back on track. I needed help. I got it. A lot of would haves and could haves later, my strength is coming back. It was something that I sacrificed on a lost cause. Huge sufferance between character disorder and character defect.

[irishmarmot]

Do borderlines really just flip a switch and that's that?  Relationship over no grieving. process?

[Perfidy]

Pretty much Irish. Pain avoidance is survival. They bury it, drugs, relationships, anything except go through it. Even suicide.