What is it called?

[Happy73]

What is it called when they feel the need to describe a situation, or analyze the situation and pick out all the negative things about it.  It's hard to describe

example:  Son is being a typical teenager, not getting ready for an event like uBPDh thinks he should.  So then starts the rage of talking about how "holding hands with your stupid girlfriend" is interfering with your thinking.

example:  He says mean things and then just says "I'm sorry if you can't handle the truth, but that's what it is"  or "It's just logical/literal and you can't handle it"

What is this type of behavior described as?

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[waverider]

I guess it is based in black and white thinking with no shades of grey, delivered with a lack of empathy. If somethings not right then its all wrong, and somebody needs to be blamed and they dont care how it effects you if they call it that way.

Even normal folks jump to conclusions but empathy and consideration prevents us from just coming out and saying things which would cause offense. A balanced view is not always our first instinctive response, but holding back gives us time to come to it.

[hergestridge]

What your husband really does is putting so much of his own emotion and values into the things he say that it becomes virtually impossibly for anyone to agree with him.

If there's a word for it? How about "insults"?