Dear gettingstronger19
I want to welcome you to this site and tell how sorry I am you are struggling with your Mom right now. I am sure your story is very long and something that you have had to deal with since very young. That can take a real toll on you and I am glad your realize you need a break for her and you are looking after yourself. Can I ask if you are still therapy? It is good to have support and this site really had helped me a lot with my dd16. I think it is very common to have to go no contact over and over again... . it must be painful for all involved. I want to encourage you to read the articles here... . I really feel the more we know the better equip we are to deal with pwBPD. I really found that I had to change a lot of what I was doing... . I really can only control myself so I do think that is a good place to start.
When a family member has BPD, the illness can negatively affect everyone in the family system, including children, siblings, and in-laws. Senior members on the
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I thik right now you need some time to heal and having some distance can help with that... . please keep posting... . I am interested to know what your main challenges are with your mom?
