I wonder if anyone else still has these same issues a few years being out of a r/s with a BPD person or am I just slow at recovering?
I'm not a few years out yet but I definitely have an anger problem, i.e., lack of thereof
In my case this probably goes farther back to earlier issues with my late-ex-wife and my dBPDtraits daughter where I learned to control my anger to be able to stay sane, and well I did an overly good job at it
I guess I feel a lot of guilt around that, but hack, I feel no anger, just love, even though I was hurt in a very painful way and I do feel used in the sense that the r/s circled around my uBPDxso needs and I was there to support her in the worst of times and she made a huge leap forward in her personal growth and just skipped forward in her life with no gratitude and zero empathy to my pain.
I must admit though that I wasn't abused to the level others are reporting here.
I guess that if I were I would be much angrier, even furious.