Your better than me

[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

Sorry this is a pointless post but I'm just so pee'd off at exBPDbf and his folks and I don't know why I am. I've lost a bit of weight recently, it's all my baby weight I've just been doing loads of walking and eating healthier and I think exBPDbf is a bit jealous. His mum was on the phone to him Friday night telling him he needs to lose weight and he needs to hurry up and do it (I'm in no doubt she's a BPD as she can be controlling and one of his family members have confirmed this, she just seems to have some issues but that's a different story) so yeah she's always on at him to lose weight because as we'll she's on a diet which she's taking to extreme. Met up with his dad today his on at him to lose weight, stop drinking and smoking. I just see it as a bit unfair sometimes, always on at him telling him his fat etc... He's not obsese just has some extra package I don't mind it to be honest obviously I worry about his health and that with the amount of fast food he eats and his drinking problem but what can I do that's his discision. I've tried to help him but not in a way that's on at him.

When we were talking about my weight he was like "you probably lose weight because your better than me" it's like :O I didn't say anything to this but in my head I'm like "I'm better than no one.

Then it's our daughters birthday next week and he asked his dad to come swimming with us without asking me first and yeah just a bit miffed about that. I kinda wanted it to just be us three then family in the afternoon.

Sorry maybe I'm just being childish. I'd rather they nah at him about his drinking than his weight, weight is a deep subject. I've told his folks about his drinking but they said they've tried everything bla bla bla and his mum gets depressed when I talk to her about it, like I told her about it last week and she was like "I'm fed up talking about him it's making me feel fed up" it's like that's your son.

[Climbmountains91]

Sorry this is a pointless post but I'm just so pee'd off at exBPDbf and his folks and I don't know why I am. I've lost a bit of weight recently, it's all my baby weight I've just been doing loads of walking and eating healthier and I think exBPDbf is a bit jealous. His mum was on the phone to him Friday night telling him he needs to lose weight and he needs to hurry up and do it (I'm in no doubt she's a BPD as she can be controlling and one of his family members have confirmed this, she just seems to have some issues but that's a different story) so yeah she's always on at him to lose weight because as we'll she's on a diet which she's taking to extreme. Met up with his dad today his on at him to lose weight, stop drinking and smoking. I just see it as a bit unfair sometimes, always on at him telling him his fat etc... He's not obsese just has some extra package I don't mind it to be honest obviously I worry about his health and that with the amount of fast food he eats and his drinking problem but what can I do that's his discision. I've tried to help him but not in a way that's on at him.

When we were talking about my weight he was like "you probably lose weight because your better than me" it's like :O I didn't say anything to this but in my head I'm like "I'm better than no one.

Then it's our daughters birthday next week and he asked his dad to come swimming with us without asking me first and yeah just a bit miffed about that. I kinda wanted it to just be us three then family in the afternoon.

Sorry maybe I'm just being childish. I'd rather they nah at him about his drinking than his weight, weight is a deep subject. I've told his folks about his drinking but they said they've tried everything bla bla bla and his mum gets depressed when I talk to her about it, like I told her about it last week and she was like "I'm fed up talking about him it's making me feel fed up" it's like that's your son.

[Forestaken]

Run, walk, (skip rope) away from this r/s.

I just ended a LT marriage. Better be alone in peace, than with someone in hell

[Fanie]

Happiness is for the brave.

If you let fear rule your decisions,

you're probably going to struggle with, what if, regrets all your life