BPDgf now denying she has BPD, refuses to take meds

[WhatJustHappened]

What do you do when your partner who has been diagnosed with BPD and now denies they have it?

says it was years ago when she went to jail (for violent offense). and now if tested, she probably wouldn't even have it.  Doc gave her prozac, she refuses to take it.

I tried talking to her about having BPD and she blew up in my face, yelled at me that i'm not a doctor or psychologist... yes, i'm aware, I'd have a lot more money,   

any advice?

been together for over 3 yrs, she's classic BPD, controlling, mean, emotionally abusive, has been physically violent in past. (I have a traumatic brain injury, with only complicates things)

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[bruceli]

What do you do when your partner who has been diagnosed with BPD and now denies they have it?

says it was years ago when she went to jail (for violent offense). and now if tested, she probably wouldn't even have it.  Doc gave her prozac, she refuses to take it.

I tried talking to her about having BPD and she blew up in my face, yelled at me that i'm not a doctor or psychologist... yes, i'm aware, I'd have a lot more money,   

any advice?

been together for over 3 yrs, she's classic BPD, controlling, mean, emotionally abusive, has been physically violent in past. (I have a traumatic brain injury, with only complicates things)

And so we have it... . the irony.

[WhatJustHappened]

Thanks, Alanis. 

[wilsonian]

I know man its enough to drive you crazy sometimes especially if like my wife I am the one with BPD now... I wish I had a perfect answer... My wife has come and gone with the fact she is BPD... . I know the worse thing is to say she does or even talk about it... The only time it evens comes up is in her calm periods and all I say is she may want to look at what the doctors have said and pretty much leave it at that... The last time I put the ball in her court so to speak she has came out and said that she has been told she has it and maybe some reason for our issues so hey it did kind of help turn back that way at least verbal... but mine is same way... refuses meds and when she gets raging I am the one with the problem... . not sure if this helps but praying for you and all who have BPD and us loved ones who choose to be with them...

[WhatJustHappened]

THANKS for your response, so guess it's just something that SHE has to take control of and I have to hope she does and I don't go insane in the mean time.  :'(