has a replacement but wont stop making my life hell any advice

[imsodizzy]

So long story short my BPDexgf and i were together 7 years we split up yhe third time now im done and making great strides in my recovery but my BPDex is acting ridiculous she has a replacement who she met in fb who a week later she made her bf which i beleave is to make me jelous because she was obsessing over me and some mystery woman who idk our baby sitter and my sister said she calls twice a week asking who this woman is and the baby sitter said she is driving around my house seeing if i come to my house at night and will show up and cause a fight and threatin to not let me see are daughter ifbi dint disclose r/s there is no damn r/s i just want to be left alone when we first got together she was ibssed with me my questiinbis when will she start obsessing over new bf and leave me the hell alone and why isshe obssed with me and imaginary woman and making my life hell why is she harassing my sister did this "woman" trigger somethibg thst made her jump into this rebound relatiobship

[arn131arn]

I can't tell you I know for sure what is going on in your ex's head. But what I honestly think, is yes, they throw it in our faces for our expense. To make us feel bad, feel pain, feel jealous, feel shame or even guilt.

My son's-mother actually has my replacement show up at baseball practice to throw a football with my son! I laugh my ass off about this on a daily basis. Why would I be upset if he does this is beyond me? The more people who love my child the better... . period. If the guy is doing this because he truly wants to... . great! If not, if she manipulating him I doing so, then he WILL figure it out.

I had a problem with it before, and damn near went through the roof. But it doesn't matter anymore, and it doesn't bother me either.

When the pain of reality becomes greater than the pain of change... . we make a change. Whether it's physical, emotional, spiritual, geographical, etc... . humans are made to endure allot of pain. An ironman triathlete, a POW war prisoner , a survivor of a BPD relationship... .

What do you say? Want to be a survivor?

Arn

Make sense?

[imsodizzy]

Why the paranoia about me and another woman ?

[imsodizzy]

 Ok so i was just thinking about how shes using this guy to make me jelous and it made me start to think about how she did the samething with me to my best friend when they broke up she got with me to make him jelous i lost that friendship over that makes me wobder if she ever did love me at all or uf i was always just a pawn in her game

[arn131arn]

Ok so i was just thinking about how shes using this guy to make me jelous and it made me start to think about how she did the samething with me to my best friend when they broke up she got with me to make him jelous i lost that friendship over that makes me wobder if she ever did love me at all or uf i was always just a pawn in her game

Stay the course. NC does wonders in revealing truth. From the sounds of it, you are right on. The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior