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« on: June 10, 2014, 07:06:50 AM »

I read this article today and first thing that reminded me of was you guys. it talks about no contact or distancing yourself as they term it in the article in a more general way towards personal problems in life with research based results. please take a minute to go through it Smiling (click to insert in post)

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« Reply #1 on: June 10, 2014, 09:23:19 AM »

Distance from conflict may promote wiser reasoning

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Results from the experiments indicated that participants who were asked to reason about a friend's relationship conflict made wiser responses than those who were asked to reason about their own relationship conflict.

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The results supported those from the first experiment: Participants who thought about their own relationship conflict from a first-person perspective showed less wise reasoning than those who thought about a friend's relationship conflict.

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But taking an outsider's perspective seemed to eliminate this bias: Participants who thought about their own relationship conflict through a friend's eyes were just as wise as those who thought about a friend's conflict.

They aren't explaining it in the article but triggering would have a factor in the way that we reason in our relationships? 



   

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What is mindfulness all about?  In the simplest sense, we all develop from time to time, thinking patterns that do not serve us well.  When we do, we are easily "triggered" -- having non-constructive reactions to specific words or actions based on prior experiences.  We've all been there - resentment, pessimism, defensiveness, impatience, closed mindedness, distrusting, intolerance, confrontational, defeated... .

Thanks for sharing antony_james  Doing the right thing (click to insert in post)
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