Thank you to my brothers and sisters

[Someday . . .]

These past couple of weeks have been difficult (again).  My dd 26, stabbed herself in the stomach, couldn't make two flights out to go to a family reunion, has been awake several times at over 36  hours at a stretch, very dysregulated etc. . .and I just wanted to say that one of the things that I could count on was my BPD family.  We all know what each other is going through and sometimes it just makes it soo much easier for me to cope when I know that others know what it is like.  So thank you everyone for being here!  May all of our journeys progressively become easier and smoother!

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[HealingSpirit]

Dear Someday,

Oh you poor thing!  I hope your DD heals and gets more regulated soon.  That sounds so scary and difficult!

I'm still fairly new here, but I couldn't agree with you more that the "family" here is a Godsend.  How did we get through the day before we all had each other to go to?

HANG IN THERE!   

[Birdi]

Hello Someday. I'm very new here but I just read your post. I also have an adult borderline daughter. It is so difficult. Mine has never gone through with any attempts or threats. She says she's too scared to actually try. But I can only imagine how frightening it would be if she did. My heart goes out to you. I hope you get some rest and some peace in all of this.

[pessim-optimist]

Oh, Someday, I am so sorry... . 

How are you doing today, how are you coping through all this? Are you getting enough outside support?

[MammaMia]

Someday

I am so sorry to hear about your dd.  Many of us have been through similar experiences, and understand how devastating this is.  I hope she is in a safe place receiving physical and emotional care, and that you have friends and family to help you through this as well.

Sadly, our BPD children are so consumed by their own suffering and pain, that they have absolutely no idea how traumatizing it is for the entire family to deal with a suicide attempt.  Bpd creates isolation, loneliness, and fear.  

We just cannot do this alone.  BPDF has been a source of knowledge, comfort, and compassion. We need each other so much because "outsiders" just do not understand the ramifications of this terrible mental illness.  We are truly a family united by necessity.

Please keep posting and let us know how we can help you, because that is what we do best... .we take care of each other.   In the meantime, prayers for you and yours.

[jellibeans]

Dear someday

I just wanted to tell you how sorry I was to read your post. How much pain your dd must be in. I do hope she finds a way to get through this all. We are here for you  

[jaynebrain]

Hello someday - I wanted to tell you that I am thinking and praying for you and your daughter.  That must be so scary.  We love our children so much, in spite of themselves and I can only imagine how heartbreaking that must be.  I hope that she can get some relief from her deep emotional pain soon. 

[tristesse]

Hello Someday,

I just wanted to ask how things are going for you today? I'm sure now that the immediate emergency is over things are somewhat calmer, but those feelings of, what do I do now, are still there, and the worry over your dd is still there. So how are you coping today? Are you dealing with all of this and healing yourself?

I also wanted to tell you just how sorry I am that you have to go through such trauma. I understand what it feels like, my dd is 30 and we have been in your shoes. We are all here for you, some to lend support others to give advice, and some can do both. Sadly I am not qualified to advise you, but I do support you, and I do care about you and how  you are doing. Hugs to you my friend.

[Someday . . .]

Thank you all for the kind and caring words.   Again, this board means a lot to me, as someone said, no one can really understand what we are going through . . only those that have children with BPD.   At the beginning of the year my daughter was doing better than I have ever seen her.  Ahhhh, yes, the calm before the storm!   She had a mental breakdown last night, also she does have a history of substance abuse - thankfully it is in 'remission', she has a history of cutting (quite a bit and currently in remission!) but now the eating disorder is rearing its ugly head again.  She has gone for days without eating and its heartbreaking to watch.  The good news is is that on her own, she had decided to join an eating disorder group.  The first group was last night and she came out quite happy . . . but also very dysregulated as she was very forthcoming about a lot of things that she has kept inside and it was too much for her . . thus the breakdown later in the evening.

I agree that she is in a lot of pain, I'm just glad that she is reaching out - at least she has the group.

Thanks to everyone and may you also know that you are not alone!

[pessim-optimist]

Among all the bad and scary news, it's good to hear that she is reaching out and wanting to get better.