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My little update
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July 07, 2014, 10:57:03 AM »
Ok, so my uBPDexgf lives with her new boyfriend for a month. Last week she started to contact me daily, but the contacts are about shallow things (how to do this and that etc.).
On saturday she sent me message that she has troubles with her new boyfriend (I guess she cant hold herself anymore) and she kicked him out. As i assumed the next day he came back and everything was normal.
Yesterday we met. I had to test myself. I also wanted to meet him and he also came. They kissed in front of me and I must say - nothing. Nothing happend inside me. Ufff, what a relief.
But what was interesting was the conversation we had before he came.
I asked her why is she jumping from one r/s to another. Her answer was expected:"Why not?".
She also said that after his house is finished, she will move in. She already chose the kitchen. They are planning to get married after his divorce is final.
BUT... .I provoke her. I said I miss sex with her, our wild sex. And I asked her if we could repeat it someday. I thought she would rage, but she didn't. She said:"Give me 2 months and I will call you. You know I like adrenaline".
What the heck was that? And in the next sentence she would say: "I have sex 2 times per day now and I'm satisifed".
What is wrong with her?
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That sounds like what my SO would have done way back when. We dated for 3-4 years off and on in high school, and we broke up constantly. He would do and say things like you described, but of course he was undiagnosed then... .
Oh how the signs were there. Then 20 years later I married him.
I feel your pain. Just try to not provoke her. I was really bad for that. I wanted the reaction.
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Pull close, push away. Constant need for attention. Enjoying the rush of doing risky and sexual things. That's my ex, too. I swear she loved the rush of having her affair behind my back. And she loved when I found out, too. I saw it in her eye. She enjoyed being the "bad girl" and having two guys chasing after her. They love it.
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