Taking uBPD/NPDm to therapy tomorrow

[CL]

Any thoughts/advice from some brave souls out there who may have been through this already? 

I've been seeing this T on my own about the issues with me and Mom and she's the one who pointed out that it's likely BPD with some NPD thrown in for good measure.  Yikes! 

Of course mom has no idea about the potential diagnosis, she agreed to go to work on our "communication" and believes that it's all me and that she can do no wrong. 

I'm trying to keep an open mind so I can go with without a plan and just leave it up to the therapist to guide things, but now I'm getting worried about mom just manipulating away and twisting things around while playing innocent and wounded.  I don't know, I guess with it in countdown mode now I'm starting to get a touch nervous. 

I don't want to not call her out on her BS, but I know I can't push too hard or she will never go back.  Since she agreed to go last week, I can tell that she is making an effort to be nicer and less horrible all the time but that's also a concern of mine.  What is she doing? Practicing? 

[Contradancer]

Best wishes.

My BPDxh, BPDm, as well as my sweetheart's BPDxw all quite counseling as soon as they were given a diagnosis. I pray it doesn't happen to you, also.

[PleaseValidate]

I'd be very surprised if your t diagnosed your mom today. S/he is there for your own treatment and this is just a part of it.

And yes, it does sound like your mom has been practicing. And/or she genuinely sees the conflict between you and is working on it in her own way. You might never hear her admit it though and she might not even be aware of it on a conscious level.

My personal experience?  At my BPDmo urging at age 14 we went. She ended second or third session early,  was upset w the therapist for not scolding me enough (she thought she was "siding" with me) and we never returned. The second and last time was a family meeting while my BPDmo was inpt psych. This time the therapist seemed very much to have been taken in by my BPDmo charming personality and was kinda hard on my Grams while I was very quiet. I found it useless. At least my BPDmo seemed to get some validation from it but obviously not enough since she spent the next 5 yrs writing about how sane she was and that caffeine made her ccrazy. No changes made. No personal responsibility taken.

Honestly it has a lot to do w the skills and experience of the T imo, so don't be nervous and let what happens happen!

Good luck! 

[HappyChappy]

A step further than most BPD would take. A step in the right direction. I have read some see it as a challange, to play games with the T. An idication of that would be pontificating on medical issues. Good luck CL. Would love to know how it goes.