Due to circumstances of her own making, my BPD mom is about to become homeless. This is sudden to me, but in talking with the social worker in the apt complex where she lives, she's been given a number of opportunities to remedy her situation and stay, and been directed to plenty of resources to find new housing. Every time there's a meeting to discuss it, she goes to the hospital and says she's suicidal.
My parents are divorced and when my mom was in the SAME situation last year my dad spent thousands of dollars helping her. She repeatedly called him to save her this time, but after years on the emotional roller coaster with her he blocked her number.
I live thousands of miles away, and even if I were in a position to "save" her, I'm at the point where I am exhausted and unwilling to step in anymore. I love her, but I can't help her if she is unwilling to help herself.
Of course, I feel an immense amount of guilt for what feels like hanging her out to dry. I feel awful fee her and the amount of pain she's in. On top of the BPD she also has depression. It's also come to my attention that after being dry pretty much my entire life because her father and brother were alcoholics, she has also started drinking.
I have a husband (annoying functional
) and 2 children. I've had my eyes opened recently to the impact this relationship has had on MY mental health and relationships, and am starting therapy ASAP.
No questions, off hand. Just looking for support. It's a relief to find my tribe, so to speak.
