anxiety leaving now depressed

[Depression = 72% of members]

It's been about 6 weeks now.  Been maintaining LC, mainly because she's been stringing me along, and emailing me everyday, I've been trying to just respond as if I was a friend in short responses. 

I thought this was working because the contact and hope was enough to get through the anxiety stage.   But I know her so well that when I don't hear from her for a day or more I know it's because the attachment to her new man is growing.  The emails are less intimate and less often.

Anyways, point being is now, i'm depressed with no energy, I know better than to say I'd prefer to go back to the anxiety and feelings of emotional death, and not being able to breathe or sleep, but at least I had a never ending supply of energy to be productive. 

Now I'm depressed and can't get out of bed... .the motivation and energy is gone.  Any advice in getting passed this?

[Vexed]

It's been about 6 weeks now.  Been maintaining LC, mainly because she's been stringing me along, and emailing me everyday, I've been trying to just respond as if I was a friend in short responses. 

I thought this was working because the contact and hope was enough to get through the anxiety stage.   But I know her so well that when I don't hear from her for a day or more I know it's because the attachment to her new man is growing.  The emails are less intimate and less often.

Anyways, point being is now, i'm depressed with no energy, I know better than to say I'd prefer to go back to the anxiety and feelings of emotional death, and not being able to breathe or sleep, but at least I had a never ending supply of energy to be productive. 

Now I'm depressed and can't get out of bed... .the motivation and energy is gone.  Any advice in getting passed this?

[fromheeltoheal]

Anxiety and depression are normal stages of the grieving process, so you're where you're supposed to be, although it may not feel good.  The good news is the depression will pass too and you'll enter another stage, and maybe cycle back through one you already went through, it's all part of the process, it takes what it takes, and I'm here to tell you, you will feel better than ever once you've detached and healed, even better than you did before you met her.

The best thing you can do right now is take very good care of yourself.  Thinking about her is normal, but correlating her emails with her relationship with someone else isn't doing you any good, better to focus on how it was when you were in a relationship with her, what beliefs you had about yourself, her, and the relationship at the time, why it's good to not be with her anymore, and what your bright future will look like.  Keeping in contact with her, and letting that give you hope, is hindering your detachment, and it may make sense to stop.  Take care of you!