How crazy is this? What do you guys think?
Crazy Is as Crazy Does!
It's reasonable to expect answers to your questions. And if I were you, I'd probably write the letter and demand answers. How can live with a partner without at least some level of honest communication? Not possible.
But remember the Disorder Always Wins. And I remember when I demanded answers, I got some, but in the long-run, I really don't know what parts of what she said was the truth or confabulation. And her stories kept changing. Give it a bit more time, and your ex won't even remember all the lies that she told you.
Sad but true.
So, do what you need to do to end your marriage, and then hurry up and file for divorce already.
Remember, this is the leaving board. If you want unbiased feedback, the other boards might be more appropriate. But here I gonna tell you that you've wasted enough of your life trying to understand Bat Sht Crazy, and it's time to start understanding yourself.
At least that's what I learned for myself.
In support,
T