uBPDh takes my wedding ring

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Whenever he gets mad at me, he takes my wedding rings.  This time he has taken it and hasn't given it back for almost a week now.  I asked him for it Monday (going back to work) and he said he didn't know what he did with it, so I refuse to ask for it again.

He took it because I went to my cousins house over the weekend and didn't wear it.  I'm currently 5 months pregnant and it's getting really tight, so I only wear it to work and when I got in public.  I went over her house to watch TV/hang out on the couch and had on sweats with no jewelry or makeup.  He accused me of apologizing to her for wearing it when we were at my grandfathers funeral last week (which never happened) so he thinks there's some big conspiracy going on.  We also have tattoo'd rings so it's not like my finger is ever completely bare when I don't have it on.

I guess I'm just venting, because the more I think about it the more is pisses me off. Can he even do this?  Isn't it technically mine? (like if we got divorced I'd be able to keep it right?)

[LilHurt420]

Whenever he gets mad at me, he takes my wedding rings.  This time he has taken it and hasn't given it back for almost a week now.  I asked him for it Monday (going back to work) and he said he didn't know what he did with it, so I refuse to ask for it again.

He took it because I went to my cousins house over the weekend and didn't wear it.  I'm currently 5 months pregnant and it's getting really tight, so I only wear it to work and when I got in public.  I went over her house to watch TV/hang out on the couch and had on sweats with no jewelry or makeup.  He accused me of apologizing to her for wearing it when we were at my grandfathers funeral last week (which never happened) so he thinks there's some big conspiracy going on.  We also have tattoo'd rings so it's not like my finger is ever completely bare when I don't have it on.

I guess I'm just venting, because the more I think about it the more is pisses me off. Can he even do this?  Isn't it technically mine? (like if we got divorced I'd be able to keep it right?)

[stuckgirl]

how does he take your wedding ring? does he take it from your drawer/jewellry case?

dont take this bad,but he's not you're mother,he cant take things away from you,if he wants to continue with such immature behaviour you should tell him its immature,or putyour ring under lock and key,or try not asking for it (i mean i think he's trying to use it to sort of get at you)

but then if the problem is only about the wedding ring (and no co occuring issues) you could just wear it as a necklace to keep him happy.

but have you told him your hand swells,its PAINFUL because you're PREGNANT?

what has he said if you've told him that?

[Ceruleanblue]

From what I understand, wedding rings and engagement rings are considered a gift. I got to keep mine during my divorce, and my husband's ex got to keep hers, and he STILL owes on it(they just garnished his wages for it... .ugh).

It's pretty silly that he doesn't understand that your fingers are swollen. My niece did wear hers on a necklace when she was pregnant, and I mentioned she needed a heavier chain, as did her husband, because she has an expensive ring, and it was on a flimsy chain. The point is though, he husband would have been understanding of her not wearing it(and he sure didn't want her to lose it... .).

Have you looked around for it? I wonder if he took it to work? I'd have myself a mad hunt for it and find it! It probably feels like he is doing it to punish you.