I got a text from mine (NC 3 weeks now) asking to meet up for a chat and that she needs 'some' of her stuff back (she has left here a few dresses and a pair of shoes). I said I will bring all of your stuff back (i.e. this is it). She didn't respond. Then sent an outrageous email to which I didn't respond. Then she sent a text cancelling the drop off of her stuff without suggesting an alternative - a bit like 'can i get the rest of my stuff?' Nonsensical spasmodic messages... .
I think this form of communication that let's you hanging, wondering what the hell is happening and ultimately prompts you to interact on their terms is a form of BPD control. Used to drive me crazy. So glad I am out of this mind torturing game.
How long have you been with yours?
I was with her for 3 years and we lived together for about 2.5 of them. Funny thing is I would have never known about BPD or that she has it unless she told me to my face and I saw the diagnosis papers. I remember talking to my therapist and she said that it is rare that BPDs disclose their disorder. She ended up sabotaging the relationship so bad that it was the last card she could play for sympathy. At first I was like, wow she is suffering for a mental disorder and immediately thought I could still fix it. Unfortunately, you can't. I've done enough research to know and I'm in acceptance.
To get back to the point. I can't even think of anything she has at my place. Even if there were things, I wouldn't respond. When it was finally over, I pretty much let her take whatever the hell she wanted so I wouldn't have to deal with her coming back. Took me almost a month to actually get the extra set of keys back.
I can already see this escalating though... .It's bad enough that she tore me to pieces she wants to come back and cut me just before the stitches are coming off.
