Hi issheBPD,
Yes, I was asked to celebrate my parents anniversaries for as long as I could remember. Yes, they have a very dysfunctional marriage, so you are not alone in either situation. When I did have contact with my parents I would give them anniversary cards, cook a big meal, or take them out to dinner, along with one other sister. This farce went on for years, even though my brother and other sister were always absent. It never felt as a real celebration, and I would think that they would have wanted to share this day alone. I really never understood why we kids had to be included. I would have understood it more if it had been a milestone anniversary, also, but was not the case.
I just wanted to validate your thoughts on this and ask if you know of any other couple that expects their children to be a part of their anniversary each year? My guess is you don't. I don't know any other couple that demanded their children be a part of this day.
Glad to know that you set a boundary and stuck to it.
Wishing you peace and blessings!
